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A Heart That Forgives

loveThere is a difference between your purpose & your destiny. A purpose can be for a certain period of time but your destiny is that God given assignment you have been called to do.
Sometimes we remained stagnant in our purpose without being able to fulfill our destiny… Why?
Because we haven’t crossed the line from our human will to His divine will and one of the reasons for that may be holding on to past hurt.

We haven’t truly been able to let go. In order to walk into your destiny you have to let go. In Hebrews 12: 15 the Bible tells us to ” Look after each other so that not one of you will fail to find God’s best blessings. Watch out that no bitterness takes root among you, for as it springs up it causes deep trouble, hurting many in their spiritual lives.” The only way to avoid this is to let go.

Now, I’ll not sit here and tell a story, this is one of the things that’s so hard for me to do. I tend to hold on to hurt not anger but the actual hurt. I don’t keep grudges or cut the person off but deep in my heart I find myself re hashing the pain the person caused me. I try to forgive, I actually do but I tend not to give second chances so I don’t know if that is true forgiveness? But today, I resolve to be better at it. We learn each day and today I learnt 4 steps towards letting go, setting the person free so I can be free to walk into my destiny….if this is you as well, join me in doing this steps

1. Talk about it & be specific: Denial or telling ourselves it doesn’t matter will do more harm than good because we leave room for the bitterness to grow

2. Give it time: Be realistic in the expectation of when you can actually let it go…You are not meant to have a good as new relationship or any relationship at all, over night with the person. But at least taking a step toward actually giving the possibility of letting it go

3. LET GO/FORGIVE/RELEASE

4. Act of mercy/grace: There has to be an act of mercy & grace towards the person. After all Joseph’s brothers did to him..at the end of the ordeal he showed mercy by still giving them silver. I’m not saying you should give the person money…LOL, all I’m saying is as we want God to show mercy towards us, we have to do the same for others

My prayer today and always, for me & u is Psalm 51:10 Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.

Have a blessed week ahead?

Blessings,

Unoma

 

 

My God Pass Am

stock-footage-black-woman-with-cold-blowing-nose-into-tissueY’all know I have been doing too much lately.  Kids are back to school, hubby is on location shooting a movie( more about that later), working and still trying to get the first draft to my second novel finished.

My daughter has been having the sniffles and I should have known that with me running around so much, and not taking precautions,  my immunity would be low. I knew it, I knew it but ignored that tugging in my spirit. Trying to be superwoman..LOL.

Well last night it all came to a head. The kids were in bed and I started to write, all of a sudden I started having chills, then the sneezing, then the shortness of breath. Oh no! I had caught the cold bug and it didn’t come alone. My throat was sore as well. I took some medicine and went to lay down. For the first time in months I was in bed by 9 p.m.

This morning I didn’t feel like going through the motions of getting the kids ready for church , so I stayed in bed. Here comes my daughter, “Mummy, today is Sunday. Remember a long time ago you said that I can wear my new watch to school and church?” she asked with excitement.

I sat up in bed and accessed her.”Yeah, baby I remember.”

“Well today is Sunday…yay!” she ran out of my room with her little brother in tow.

Although her reason is warped( we’ll deal with that later) It was clear that she had a motive for going to church and her sniffles or cough didn’t stop the excitement.

So it would have been for me if today was Monday. Because I needed my paycheck I would have packed myself with all kinds of medication to make myself comfortable but I would have gone to work. And be on time too.

This laziness or weakness in doing what I had to do and go to church was the devil’s way of trying to stop me from hearing the word God had for me.  Not like I was seriously ill, I just have a cold.  But as my people would say “God pass am”. Cos I got myself together and we went to church. And I’m glad we did.

My word for the day?

God does not give us anything(dream, vision, destiny) that He hasn’t allotted time for us to fulfill.

If God has placed the vision in your heart, whenever you get it, that’s when its time for you to begin. Don’t compare where you are in doing God’s work with the next person. Everyone has been given their assignment and He has allotted time for you to finish it.  The most important thing is that you are moving towards the fulfillment of your destiny. Putting one foot in front of the other trusting and believing His Word.

We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith;~ Romans 12:6

Back home, I’m  under the covers, with my cup of tea but that’s my flesh. My spirit is filled and I can face anything. Now that, I needed.

Blessings

Unoma

I Declare, His Grace…

black-woman-sleeping-475x350-475x260But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace toward me was not in vain. On the contrary, I worked harder than any of them, though it was not I, but the grace of God that is with me~ 1 Corinthians 15:10

                                  DECLARE WITH ME!

  • For every assignment God gives me,  through faith and obedience, I’ll be able to do things seamlessly without struggle.
  •     I’ll rest in His love and not worry about a thing.
  •     When I get to the end of my rope, I will tie a knot and hold on. Because I know that where my strength stops, His begins.
  • In pursuing my purpose, I’ll remain connected to the giver of that purpose. Help me Lord, not to sacrifice my worship at the altar of  purpose or money.

After all its only but by the grace of God that I am what I am.

His grace of sufficient for me!

Blessings,

Unoma

He’s Silent and I’m Mad…

stock-footage-woman-praying-in-churchPsalm 42:9 I say to God my Rock, “Why have you forgotten me? Why must I go about mourning, oppressed by the enemy?”

Patricia walked into the massive church. The cool air that kissed her face was a welcome change from the scorching sun that had punished her soft light brown skin during the ten minute walk to the chapel that was close to her office. She quickly covered her wild curls  with a silk scarf and made her way to the altar. Patricia stared at the massive cross, tears started to form in her eyes as she remembered the price Jesus had paid for her salvation. She knelt and bowed her head.

 For the past couple of months she spent her lunch break here. She remembered the look of love and admiration  on his face when he kissed her good-bye. Recently she had begun to feel unworthy of his love. Why should he love her this much when for three years she hadn’t been able to provide him the one thing she knew he wanted more than anything;  a child. Despite what he said, she saw his face light up anytime he was with his nieces or the boys he coached on the weekends. Why was her own case different?

 Her tear ducts had a mind of their own as she began to sob uncontrollably.  She stood up and began to pace back and forth across the altar with her arms wrapped around her slender five foot two frame. Her strides becoming more forceful as her anger rose. After several minutes, she began to speak. “Father, I have fasted and prayed that now I don’t even know what else to say. I’ve cried so much that the tears no longer flow. I’ve been hoping for as  long as I can  remember. I’m struggling Lord, I’m struggling to hold on. Every Sunday I go to church and hear the testimony of others, all around me things seem to be changing or moving in the right direction for others but my prayers seem to be hitting some kind of wall. You’re silent Lord and I’m angry.” 

Patricia or Pat as her husband fondly called her felt a sudden chill in the room. She turned around and the sanctuary was  empty. She was tired. It was barely twelve thirty p.m. and the energy seemed to be sapped from her. She sat in front of  the altar in silence, her anger now subsided. After about fifteen minutes, she got up, dusted off her skirt and began making her way out. She didn’t have it in her to pray today. As she approached the last pew, she saw a man seated close to the aisle.

“Good afternoon, I’m sorry. I didn’t know there was anyone else here,” she said. He wasn’t the Pastor she remembered here maybe he was new. Oh I hope he didn’t hear me venting. She thought. The man smiled at her then scooted over making room for her to sit close to him. She sized him up, looked at her watch, she had just ten minutes to spare. Patricia looked at the door unconsciously seeking the nearest exit.

“Sit my daughter,” he encouraged. She sat down cautiously.

“I don’t what you are going through nor will I pretend to know how you feel but there is a God who does….”

 “I don’t know about that..” She scowled. “I’m sorry I didn’t mean to sound angry, I’m just frustrated,” she quickly explained. He must think she is a bad Christian for being angry.

“Don’t apologize. There are many instances in the bible where great men and women of God felt that God was silent. They were angered by it and expressed it. Hannah expressed it when she went to the temple to pray as if she were crazy, David asked God countless times why He had forsaken him. Elijah asked God to end his life but God wouldn’t, the list goes on and on. So its ok to have feelings BUT, and here is the key always remember, that as Christians, we should be steadfast and have  the ability to perseverance as this brings about good character. ”

“Don’t be weary in doing good. Your due season might be taking way longer than you expected, He might seem silent and it is ok to get upset, but the key is not to STAY in this state. Every time David asked God why He was forsaking him, he never ended it with the same anger or depression he started the Psalm with, he ended it with Praise!!! Acknowledging the fact that He is no lesser a God in confusion than He is in a state of peace. We owe it to God to praise Him in all circumstances, His grace is sufficient and will give us strength while we wait for our due season   “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12:19.”

Patricia breathe a sigh of relief and bowed her head, placing her face in her hands. After a few moments she let out another sigh and lifted her head. He was gone! She panicked and stood. She picked up her bag, and the piece of paper that fell from on top of it. She crumpled it in her hand and hurried out of the chapel, not looking back or stopping until she got to her desk.  What  just happened? Who was that? She opened her fist to look at the paper she had been too scared to read. In bold writing was

 Therefore boast all the more gladly about your weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on you.

 What are you waiting on? Be encouraged!

Blessings,

Unoma