How to Combat Long Seasons of Wait.

Today, I’d like to share a snippet from Chapter 1 of In the Dark. Aptly titled My Jonah Moment,
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“While in the vineyard, long periods of wait created a constant struggle between having Jesus in my heart and the enemy’s voice attacking my mind. Fear, doubt, despair, unforgiveness even anger at God. Why didn’t He answer me NOW?”
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⚓️Learning how to wait is crucial for spiritual growth. But as Christians we feel we can’t admit that we fall short.
⚓️Owning your struggle and seeking Him for help is the only way to remain anchored in truth and hope.

Don't let long periods of wait distract you from the truth of God's promise.
📚In the Dark shows you how to wait and intentionally fix your mind on Him alone.

You can order you copy of In the Dark here  to get the full experience and see what others are talking about.

Blessings

Unoma

Friday Fiction Mom: Obiageli Danjuma

Happy Friday! Hope you had a wonderful Mother’s Day. Whether you were celebrated or you celebrated someone else, hope it was enjoyable. Today I get to introduce you to no stranger to this blog Obiageli Danjuma. Mrs. Danjuma is the mother of Rasheed, Jabir & Kamal from the Sons of Ishmael series. She took over this blog right before her son Jabir’s story was released. If you missed it you can read it here

Here is an excerpt from the first book in the Sons of Ishmael series, A Scoop of Love

Rasheed took in a deep breath. The aroma of her onugbu soup filled the room. His stomach roared for attention, but it would have to wait. This discussion needed to be had now.

After her routine doctor visit this morning, the doctor was concerned about her blood pressure and had recommended low stress and a change in diet.

“Mama, you heard what the doctor said. You have to change your cooking and eating habits.”

“I’m fine.”

Her reply rattled him. Her health was paramount and it displeased him that she seemed so nonchalant about it. She must have seen the worried looked on his face.

“Stop frowning. I’m not dead yet—”

He stood up and walked into the kitchen to get a bottle of water. The humidity was higher than usual today.

When he returned his mother continued, “Stop worrying. I have no intention of leaving you and your brothers now. Especially since none of you have given me grandchildren yet.” She paused. “You worry about me too much and I understand that, but I’m okay. I have made peace a long time ago. Right now, I need to talk to you. And don’t dismiss me.”

“Mama, whatever it is can wait until we get this squared away.”

“I’m not deaf. I was there and heard what the doctor said.”

“Okay, but—”

“But nothing. What I have to tell you is important.” His mother fidgeted with her chair, returning it to the upright position.

“What is it, Mama?”

She paused, looked up to the ceiling as though asking God for help, then continued, “Nna, I don’t have to tell you the story of my life, the good, the bad and the ugly. The one regret I have is exposing you to the ugly for so long.”

“Mama, what are you talking about? Why are you sounding like this?” Rasheed didn’t know where she was going with this speech, but he didn’t like it. It wasn’t like she deliberately put herself in misery, but it happened. So why was she acting as if she wasn’t the victim in all this?

“I’m saying this because I don’t like where your life is headed.”

“What’s wrong with my life? I have a good job, a house in London, and I can afford to give you the best.”

“That’s just it. I’ve watched you over the years focus on only material things.”

He clenched his jaw. This was a topic he didn’t like discussing, but he knew his mother wouldn’t let up ‘til they did.

He remained silent and she continued, “I’m not telling you not to go after your dreams and desires, but don’t allow the need to prove something to yourself deprive you of living. It’s been years. Stop letting it consume you. Have you given more thought to your father’s will?”

End

“She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighbor- -Winter is dead.”

Here is a second excerpt from the second book in the series, Anchored By Love.

Jabir reread his email and sent it to Ashton, then shut his laptop just as his mother reentered the kitchen. She had changed into one of her lounging Ankara bou bous. She pulled on his cheek and walked to the counter.

“Ouch. Mama, I’m not a kid anymore.” He rubbed the spot. From old pictures, one could see he and Kamal had humongous cheeks when they were babies. His mother apparently didn’t mind that those cheeks had long disappeared. She still pulled on them any chance she got.

“Hush now. You’ll always be my baby. All of you.” She measured rice from the bag and washed it. “Speaking of children, do I have to ask about Damisi, or are you going to tell me?”

Jabir thought to stall, but then his mother was going to bug him to death until he gave up the information she wanted.

“Your hunch was right. We’re having twins.” Jabir said.

His mother dropped the pot on the burner with more force than necessary. The water splashed on the fire. But she obviously could care less about the sizzling sound it made. She stood in shock. Then she broke into a dance and crooned the song “Imela,” which meant “God has done well” in her native Igbo language.

“So where is my daughter? What have you two planned? When is the wedding?” his mother asked without taking a breath. She leaned against the counter.

“Mama, easy. She’s in Kenya.” Jabir told his mother what was going on with Damisi’s father’s health. She then insisted they say a prayer for him right then. After the prayer, she looked at him. He saw the intensity in her eyes.

“My grandchildren cannot be born out of wedlock.”

“Mama, she has to agree to marry me first, abi?”

“Did you ask her?”

“Err…yes. Kind of.”

His mother frowned. “What does that mean? Chike?”

“Oh Lord Mama, not the Igbo name…” his mother always called them by their middle names when she was angry, disappointed or wanted something they couldn’t give.

“Jabir Chike Danjuma, did you ask her or did you throw your weight around?” She placed her hand on her hip. “See, I know each and every one of my sons and what they are capable of doing.”

End

I love Obageli, she went through so much but raised her sons right. Get to know her more in the Sons of Ishmael series. Click here

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Blessings

Unoma

Anchor Talk : The Gift of Goodbye

Today’s verse comes from Ruth 1:15-16

I once did a live Facebook Live where I was talked about Ruth and how she set aside her own darkness to take care of Naomi. She decided to walk through Naomi’s valley of pain and despair, move with her to a new town.

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At the time, I’m sure she didn’t envision her life as being a widow at such a young age, then having to spend the rest of her life looking after Naomi but she did. However, there were 2 daughters in laws. Naomi told both of them to go and leave her because she no longer has anything to offer them. O left, Ruth stayed. We all know how the story ended but I want you to know two things.

1): There are no mistakes with God and

2) Not everyone that started with you will end with you.

Listen to the full show here
Anchor Verse: Matthew 10:14, “If anyone will not receive you or listen to your words, shake the dust off your feet and move on.”

Blesssings

Unoma

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Flashlight Moments In The Dark Series Presents: Stacy Hawkins Adams

Hi there! Welcome back to my blog. Today I have the pleasure of introducing you to an author that I absolutely admire. If you haven’t read one of her books, do yourself a favor and get them. I loved Coming Home and The Someday List 🙂 She has a new venture Life Untapped. The stories on there are so relatable. I’m going to step aside and let her tell us more.

Unoma: Who is Stacy Hawkins Adams?

Stacy: I would describe myself as optimistic, loyal and somewhat shy. But behind what appears to be my reserved demeanor is a fun-loving, big-hearted person who wants to enjoy life to the fullest and wishes the same for others. I am a natural encourager; so seeing others thrive makes my heart smile. I’m also a deeply devoted mom, a lover of all things chocolate and a big fan of naps. Most importantly,  I am God’s grateful daughter.

Unoma: In 10 words or less can you create a quote that describes you and your purpose journey?

Stacy:  I write and speak to encourage, uplift and inspire others.

Unoma:  What is the driving force in your life?

Stacy: My relationship with God and honoring Him in all I do is my driving force, whether that be through my writing, my role as a devoted mother to my two children, or in my role as a sister, friend, colleague and community member.

Unoma: How do you balance family, faith and your passion/business?

Stacy: Ecclesiastes 3:11 is one of my life scriptures, and I’ve embraced the fact that life happens in seasons, and so can our purpose and passion. I do a lot of things (write fiction, write nonfiction, work a full-time job beyond writing, parent, volunteer, etc.) but I don’t always do them all at once! In some seasons I read more than I write (intentionally); in some seasons my role as a parent means other activities and goals must be sidelined; in some season they’re clicking all at once. As life ebbs and flows, so do my patterns of busyness and need, and I try to go with the flow and trust God’s timing for making it all come together as it should.

Unoma: What was the single most devastating experience/challenge in your life and how did you overcome it?

Stacy: Grief is always difficult, so I could say the loss of my mother 12 years ago; but about as difficult as that experience was going through divorce, because in many ways divorce is a death, too – death of your family as you knew it and death of many of your dreams.  I’ve been a single mother (who co-parents with my children’s father) for about five years, and that complete shift in my life and my children’s lives was huge. As any divorced person can tell you, overcoming this isn’t easy or fast, especially after a long-term marriage. But through much prayer, patience, self-care and support from loyal family and friends, my journey has shifted to one of discovering and appreciating beauty from those ashes. Persistence in this process has helped me ensure that my children having loving relationships with both of their parents and also has strengthened my inner peace and joy. (And FYI, because I have such a vast body of writing under my name Stacy Hawkins Adams, I don’t plan to change it, whatever the future holds. It will remain my pen name – or at least one of them.)

Unoma: How do you build confident expectations in your dark moments?

Stacy: I am an optimist by nature, so I always try to find a “silver lining” in whatever dark moments I encounter. I also deeply trust in Romans 8:28 and believe that every thing will eventually work out for my good, as long as I’m operating in integrity and excellence.

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Unoma :  How does your understanding of the future give you hope for the present?

Stacy: I know that I can’t control the future; all I can do is give my best and be my best today. If I focus on doing that well, it’s just like climbing a set of stairs: you can only take one at a time, but if you keep moving forward, eventually you’ll reach your desired destination. Jeremiah 29:11 reminds of this: God has a future for us that is amazing and purpose-filled; we just have to do our part to get there.

Unoma : What does it look like practically for you to “turn to the cross” in your business/ministry.

Stacy: For me that is something I do daily, whether dealing with my routine tasks or facing an extraordinary opportunity.  It means revisiting particular scriptures that are my anchor; making sure I maintain a weekly prayer call with my prayer partner in addition to my constant conversations with God, and seeking wise counsel from fellow believers who I know have my best interest at heart.

Unoma:  What advice would you give your younger self?

Stacy: I would tell my younger self it’s okay to not always get it right. Sometimes the failures or missteps we experience are necessary to learn important life lessons, to become empathetic toward others or to grow in some way that will eventually help us live out our life’s purpose. I know for sure that the challenges and losses I’ve faced have not only made me stronger, but also have helped me empathize with others more deeply, and grant them the benefit of the doubt more than I might have otherwise.

Unoma:  What can we look forward to from you this year? OR What are you working on?

Stacy: While I love writing fiction, I will spend most of 2017 focused on my nonfiction writing, which is also a passion. I recently launched a new blog (www.LifeUntapped.com) and I’ll be marketing and growing this platform this year, along with blogging more regularly for The Huffington Post and sharing my writing in essays and articles. I also am toying with the idea of writing a short story or two, so stay tuned!

Wow! I hope you enjoyed that. Reading this makes the Stacy’s books I’ve read make so much more sense. I simply love them. You wanna know more about her…

Bio

Stacy Hawkins Adams is an author, journalist and writing mentor whose fiction and nonfiction help readers find confidence in their own stories. She has penned nine faith-based novels and one devotional book. Her recent titles include The Someday List, an Essence bestseller; Coming Home, a 2012 Target stores Recommended Read; and Finding Home, a finalist for a 2016 African American Literary Show Award. Stacy also serves as the parenting columnist for a Virginia-based newspaper and blogs occasionally for The Huffington Post. Learn more about Stacy at www.StacyHawkinsAdams.com and visit her blog at www.LifeUntapped.com.

Contact: Stacy@StacyHawkinsAdams.com

Nest week is our finale with Lara Mfon and with that, I’m sad to say that we have come to the end of this series. Please feel free to click on the category and read stories that you have missed. I promise you will be encouraged and empowered.

You are never alone in your struggles, the plan is to whatever you do, hold on to His promises and His plan.

Have you ordered your copy of In the Dark? What are you waiting on. Click here

Blessings

Unoma

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