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Flashlight Moments In the Dark Presents: Abimbola Dare

Peace and blessings be with you at the start of this new week. You aren’t reading wrong, I have decided to move the Flashlight Moments in the Dark series to Mondays. That way you can get the full experience of the Anchor Talk Podcast on Tuesdays.

Today, I have the pleasure of introducing you to Abimbola Dare. She isn’t a stranger to the blog so I won’t go into any long intro so we can get to the juiciness of her interview. Reading and preparing it for you was one big “wow fest” for me. The reason is that our stories to purpose is kinda similar. Pain and hopelessness pushed me into mine via my hubby.Chaos pushed her into hers.

There is something about our storms that have a way of turning things around. But as I say on this blog all the time, we can’t give up in the midst of it. We gotta hold on by having #confidentexpectations in the All Knowing God. Without further talk, let’s enjoy Abimbola(who I fondly call”Bims) Dare’s interview.

Unoma: Who is Abimbola Dare?
Abimbola: First, I am a believer of the Lord Jesus Christ, a writer and author of two books ( plus a few short stories and other unpublished works). I am married to a kind, wonderful man, a mother of beautiful children and an IT professional in the publishing industry (a job I love). I am also an anointed speaker of God’s word, and a playwright. I wear many hats by God’s grace- and grateful for them all.
Unoma:  In 10 words or less can you create a quote that describes you and your purpose journey?
Abimbola: Sharing God’s love, one story at a time…
Unoma: What is the driving force in your life?
Abimbola: The Holy Spirit; the desire to fulfill destiny, and knowing that other destinies are tied to mine.
Unoma: How do you balance family, faith and your passion/business?
Abimbola: I try to juggle everything and take each day as it comes. I outsource some of my house hold chores where I can, and ask my husband to help when it gets overwhelming. My children are getting older and are starting to understand when mummy needs to write, and so leave me alone for like 15 minutes before they come badgering back! I try to write every spare moment which often includes train rides to work, or during my lunch break. I write when I can and try not to stress when I can’t.
Unoma: What was the single most devastating experience/challenge in your life and how did you overcome it?
Abimbola: I went through an experience in 2009 that is still tough to talk about. It was a time changed my life and shook my faith to my core. It was a time of loss, of disappointing news, of hopes crushed. It was a time when I was convinced that God did not love me anymore, a time when I questioned God’s faithfulness, his ability to save, but the precious Holy Spirit kept on assuring me and whispering words of love to my soul. But for the Holy Spirit, I would have turned my back on my faith… but God did not let me go! I overcame it by choosing to trust God, regardless and by leaning on the Holy Spirit. It’s amazing how God works because that experience led me to find my purpose … through the pain. It was in the chaos of that period, God called me to write for Him.

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Unoma: How do you build confident expectations in your dark moments?
Abimbola: I try to press on, holding unto Jesus even when it feels like He isn’t there. I talk to myself in the mirror, remind myself that I am special. That God loves me. That I have a calling, a purpose, a destiny. Sometimes I have to repeat this to myself many, many times before my confidence is restored.
Unoma: How does your understanding of the future give you hope for the present?
Abimbola: I know that I was created for a purpose. I know that I am light, and that I will shine. I believe that God has a plan for me, one of good and so that helps me hold my head up and press on even when things don’t seem to work out the way I want them to.
Unoma: What does it look like practically for you to “turn to the cross” in your business/ministry.
Abimbola: In my writing, when I am unsure of what to do with a story or when I face writer’s block or when I am uninspired to write) I have sometimes fasted, prayed, and deliberately waited on God for direction. Sometimes I lie on the floor in my bedroom and just stay there, saying nothing. The prayer is a cry from the depth of my soul for God to give my story a direction.
Unoma: What advice would you give your younger self?
Abimbola: Be fearless. Don’t worry. God will not fail. Be consistent. Try again.
Unoma: What can we look forward to from you this year?
Abimbola: I am working on releasing two novels by God’s grace- one which will be traditionally published (and is currently being edited by the publishing firm). The second novel is now being featured on my website as a blog series titled The Accidental Wife. The aim is to run that for as long as I can before I get it out into a novel.

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You can read the first two episodes of The Accidental Wife here

Bio:

Abimbola Dare started writing in 2006 as Bimbylads, the blogger. When she took a break from blogging to start a family in 2009, God called her to write Christian fiction. Her first novel, The Small Print, was released in 2011-which became a top 40 Kindle Bestseller. In 2013, her second novel, When Broken Chords Sing also reached the number 1 spot in its category. In 2012, she wrote a short story titled The No-Nonsense Wife which became an internet sensation and was made into a short film. She is a gifted speaker of the Word, a wife and a mother. She is currently working on her 3rd & 4th novels, a play script ( stage) and a screen play. The novels are due to be published later this year.

Contact: abimboladare1@gmail.com
Facebook.com/bimbylads
Instagram: @abimboladareauthor

I hope you enjoyed this interview and found something in it that resonated with you.

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Blessings,

Unoma

 

 

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Flashlight Moments In The Dark Presents: Norma L. Jarrett

Welcome to another edition of Flashlight Moments in the Dark. I hope you have been keeping up. This week is our third week and I have the pleasure of interviewing Norma L Jarret.

Me: So tell us, who is Norma L. Jarrett?
Norma: Norma Jarrett is a believer who seeks to encourage and inspire through the use of her creative gifts.
Me: What is the driving force in your life?
Norma: My desire to encourage and inspire women and to help them understand how fearfully and wonderfully he has made us all.

Me: How do you balance family, faith and your passion/business?

Norma: It is not always easy. I think you have to continuously commit it to God. Especially when you know you have not honored your time as you should. God is the great balancer. Me: What was the single most devastating experience/challenge in your life and how did you overcome it?
Norma: Losing my mother shortly after I graduated from college. She was my best friend. (next to my father) Her death was so unexpected and heart breaking. I can’t say I have completely gotten over it but it forced me to grow closer to God. I wandered around plugging that whole with accomplishments but on He could fill that space.
Me: How do you build confident expectations in your dark moments?
Norma: On the professional, I talk to God a lot but also have a few trusted sounding boards. I read the word and other motivational material. I pray and use affirmations and I try to stay around passion infused people. On the personal side I journal, stay connected to spirit filled but balanced friends, listen to praise and worship and attend church. I do lots of “self-talk” and remember everything is a season. It is also wise to have a great prayer partner.

 

 

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Me: How does your understanding of the future give you hope for the present?
Norma: I know that God holds the future. I have learned hard lessons about anxiety and fear. Some of our biggest mistakes occur when we get out of God’s timing. It sounds cliché’ but you do have to live in the moment. (Business or Personal)
Me:What does it look like practically for you to “turn to the cross” in your business/ministry.
Norma: It means quiet time for me. I have to shut everything down. By nature I am a socialized introvert so turning inward comes natural. It means getting up a little earlier to pray and meditate or something simple as sitting outside and soaking up nature.
Me:What advice would you give your younger self?
Norma: You are so much smarter, together and more beautiful than you give yourself credit for. Don’t ever let anyone else assign your value. Have fun and enjoy every experience in life.
Me:What can we look forward to from you this year? OR What are you working on?
Norma: I am working on two non-fiction books. Place and With Dignity and Grace.

I hope you enjoyed Norma’s transparency and see that even through uncertainty, we owe it to ourselves to push through the process and glow in the dark. Also Journaling play an important role in intentional thinking and reflection. There is still time to get your FREE Light Pearls in the Dark Prayer Journal. All you have to do is preorder In the Dark

Now let’s find out more about Norma,

Bio: Norma L. Jarrett, J.D. is the award winning author of Randomhouse novels, Sunday Brunch, Sweet Magnolia and The Sunday Brunch Diaries (Essence bestseller) and other works: Bridal Brunch, Brunchspiration, Christmas Beau, Love on a Budget, Valentine’s Day…Again??? and Salt and Sky. Her work has been featured in USA Today, Essence, Ebony, Publisher’s Weekly, Rolling Out, Southern Living, Upscale, Hope Magazine and other media. Norma has been a featured guest on The Yolanda Adams radio show, ABC 13’s Crossroads, Outlook Houston, Majic 102, Atlanta’s V103 and other media. Among other honors, Ms. Jarrett has received a Certificate of Congressional Recognition for her literary work. She has served as a panelist and/or speaker at events such as the Baltimore Book Festival, Miami Book Fair, Faith & Fiction Retreat, Harlem Book Fair, the Essence Music Festival, Christian Book Lovers Retreat and other venues. Ms. Jarrett is a graduate of North Carolina A & T State University and Thurgood Marshall School of Law. Norma is also a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc and a founding member of The Anointed Authors on Tour. She is married and resides in Houston, Texas, where she attends Lakewood Church. Visit her website at http://www.normajarrett.net.

You can also keep up with Norma on Social media

@jarrettwrites7 (Twitter)
@Authornormajarrett (Instagram)
@jarrettwrites7@aol.com (e-mail)

Enjoy the rest of your week

Blessings
Unoma

 

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Flashlight Moments In The Dark Presents: Yejide Kilanko

Hey! And we are back with another edition of Flashlight Moments in the Dark.  I hope you are caught up. If not, you really need to check it out.

Today however, I want to introduce you to my sister scribe. My aburo (sister) Yejide Kilanko. I met Yejide over the world wide web and we clicked almost immediately.Distance, she lives in Canada, didn’t even make a difference. lives in Canada but over the net we just clicked. Then God made it possible for us to met when she visited the U.S some years ago. It was awesome. I cant wait for you to read her story. Unlike my past guests, I didn’t do an interview, I just allowed her to tell you her story. Read. Enjoy and Be Blessed.

*************************************************************                     My name is Yejide Kilanko. I’m a writer. I still smile at my computer screen whenever I type those words. It’s a beautiful thing when your passion and purpose fuse.
I was asked to share a ten-word quote which describes me and my purpose journey. It’s an “Imperfect woman navigating a life powered by God’s amazing grace.”
Without a doubt, I have been the recipient of God’s unmerited favour. If you were to ask me to identify my life’s driving force, I would say it’s the desire to be obedient. Less of me, more of God, as I grow my faith and find balance in all I do.
Thanks to my stubborn personality, I tried to do it all on my terms. The word ‘tried’ captures my repeated failures. One thing about failure is that it makes you feel vulnerable. In my case, that sense of vulnerability makes me receptive to direction. God’s direction.
This series is about challenges and flashlight moments. I’ve certainly had both. The big question from our host is, “What was the single most devastating experience/challenge in your life and how did you overcome it?”

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Those who know my story would probably say it must have been the cancer diagnosis. It is not.
The challenge I’ve lived with since I was a little girl is anxiety. You can call it worry, fear, unease, agitation or angst.
I see your frown. Yes, I just said anxiety is more devastating than cancer. The key thing here are the words, for me. Anxiety induces a sense of panic, magnifies every problem and messes with my heart and head. Above all, it erodes my faith. And since I can’t please God without faith, that makes it a huge challenge.
Now that I’ve told you about the challenge let’s talk about the flashlight moment. I hope you’re not claustrophobic. I need you to lend me your imagination as I walk through an underground cave.
Deep breaths. Here we go.
It’s a ‘you can’t see your hand in front of your face’ kind of dark. It makes me grateful for the silver flashlight in my grasp.
I scrunch my nose at the rotten egg smell in the air.
As the shadows around me transform into seven-foot giants and carnivorous dinosaurs, I feel the rocky ground tremble.
With every step, my shoes sink into a carpet of bat droppings. I’m yet to run into one. But I can hear the flapping sounds of their wings. The thought of them coming close to my face makes my heart race. I feel like screaming. I don’t. I know that if I were to scream, the echo would only come back to haunt me. I clamp my lips and move only as far as the range of the flashlight’s bright beam.
When something slimy falls off the cave roof and lands on the back of my neck, I don’t lecture myself when I pee a little.
Remember that I’d told you fear messes with the heart and the head? Unfortunately, the bladder doesn’t get a pass. If you let fear take over, it will affect every part of your life.
I’m sure you think that this is the point where I’ll tell you how I overcame this debilitating challenge. I can’t because I haven’t.

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My flashlight moment isn’t one where I’ve made it out of the cave into the sunshine. I’m still walking this journey on a daily basis. But, instead of relying on manmade batteries to power my flashlight, I’m relying on God’s word, His grace, to lead me through.
Sounds easy? It’s not. You still have to walk through the pile of bat droppings and any other thing life throws in your path.
You know those annoying co-workers whose constant humming forces you to play a game of Name That Tune at your desk? Well, I’m one of them. As we say in Nigeria, I can sing for Africa. It’s not even important that I know the right lyrics or can carry the tune. #SnapAndWhistle
So, here I am, right in the middle of the junk, building up my confident expectations, my hopes, as I hold on to the flashlight and sing “Take My Hand, Precious Lord” at the top of my voice. This is my Ms. Mahalia Jackson moment. I’m elated when those fierce shadows transform into harmless butterflies. Joy turns my timid steps into a swagger.
No matter the challenge you’re facing today, the season of life you’re in, please, hold on to that flashlight, to God’s word. It is a shelter. Keep taking those steps. Because God is with you, there’s the assurance that you will make it back into the light.
And when you get out of that damp cave, your loved ones will be waiting with spicy Jollof rice and fried chicken. As a food lover, I had to add that.
Don’t be afraid to get close to your search party. Their noses would not care about the whiff of you know what when they give you big hugs and say, welcome back, we missed you.
I’m going to let you walk ahead now. Thanks for being such a great travel companion. See you out there.
Take My Hand, Precious Lord.
Precious Lord, take my hand
Lead me on, let me stand
I’m tired, I’m weak, I’m lone
Through the storm, through the night
Lead me on to the light
Take my hand precious Lord, lead me home

When my way grows drear precious Lord linger near
When my light is almost gone
Hear my cry, hear my call
Hold my hand lest I fall
Take my hand precious Lord, lead me home

When the darkness appears and the night draws near
And the day is past and gone
At the river I stand
Guide my feet, hold my hand
Take my hand precious Lord, lead me home

Precious Lord, take my hand
Lead me on, let me stand
I’m tired, I’m weak, I’m lone
Through the storm, through the night
Lead me on to the light.
Take my hand precious Lord, lead me home.~ Yejide Kilanko

Wow! Did you enjoy that as much as I did? So much emotion, I was brought to tears, the depth of description is only a tip of the iceberg, you should read her books. They are fantastic. There is nothing more I can add that would make this post more effective so on that note I will sign off. Please leave Yejide a comment and she will answer each one of them. Also please use the buttons below to share. Here’s a little more about Yejide

Bio:

Yejide Kilanko was born in Ibadan, Nigeria. She is a writer of poetry, fiction and a therapist in children’s mental health. Her debut novel, Daughters Who Walk This Path, was first published by Penguin Canada in April 2012. Her novella, Chasing Butterflies, was published in March 2015. Yejide currently lives with her family in Ontario, Canada. If you’re interested in knowing more about Yejide’s work, please visit http://www.yejidekilanko.com or https://www.facebook.com/YejideKilankoAuthor/

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Be Blessed

Unoma

Flashlight Moments In the Dark Presents: Melinda Michelle

Hey y’all! Happy Valentines Day. It’s another Tuesday and today I welcome Melinda Michelle. She is known for her stories of warfare but that wasn’t what I got to know her for. No sir! I got to know her for her famous #GMMERants. Chile, they are off the chain. Here is an example…

#GMMERant: This one goes out to all the fast food restaurants that UNDER condiment! Listen…listen…listen. First of all…I’m a grown behind woman! What am I supposed to do with three ketchup packets? Really?! Like really?! It was your bright idea to have grown up fries, not mine. You could’ve had shoe strings, but you wanna be all fancy with crinkles and seasoned salt which requires EXTRA ketchup, cuz that ain’t regular salt! Then if I think, oh let me use the other sauce I got, that ain’t enough cuz you only give one of them then you want to charge for extra as if y’all ain’t high enough!!!! Listen, I know the struggle is real for everybody but the money y’all save on soda cuz of all the ice you use, you need to invest in ketchup packets!!! And for all of you that say, oh all you have to do is ask for more…LIES! When you ask for more they look at you like you have to pull out a birth certificate and a passport to prove you’re a US citizen and must pledge allegiance to their red, white and blue ketchup packet (yes Zaxby’s I’m throwing shade!) Anyways…just STINGY! I’m moving on with my life now, but all crew members expect a side eye!

Signed,
Choking on Potatoes

#TheyStingy #WhatHappenedToSharingIsCaring #IsntMyKetchupInThatOneCentExtraTaxIVotedFor #YallPlayTooMuch #UseShoeStringFriesIfYallGonBeCheap

I remember drinking a soda and aimlessly scrolling Facebook when I came across a #GMMERant. I chocked on my drink. She now does them few and far in between but when she does, I know she is thinking about me because she knows I love them. 😉

I have the pleasure of interviewing her today so lets get right to it.

Unoma: Who is Melinda Michelle?

Melinda: A woman that likes to laugh, wants to please God and trying to stay sane in an insane world.

Unoma: Yea we all need to laugh. It relieves a lot of stress and you really know how to make people do it too.In 10 words or less can you create a quote that describes you and your purpose journey?

Melinda: “My yes to God is one scary thing I’d repeat.”

Unoma: Oh wow! Now that’s a lot packed into that one sentence. Saying yes to Him is so scary. Sometimes I ask, “Are you sure God?” What would you say is the driving force in your life?

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Melinda: Fulfilling my Kingdom Purpose and missing no soul attached to my assignment.

Unoma : Yes I love that. Contrary to the popular belief, kingdom business comes with serious trials. So, fulfilling it is not for the faint at heart. Which is why I’m passionate about championing others through the dark places. You know those places of uncertainty. My next question is, how do you balance family, faith and your passion/business?

Melinda: Right now, it’s just me, but it still has its challenges. Every season I go to God and ask Him for a plan to organize my life. I follow it and it still leaves room for me to live life which makes the hard work worth it.

Unoma :I love it. A common mistake those that are still single make it not utilizing the season they are in. Trust me I know…LOL. Okay now let’s get into the deep stuff.What was the single most devastating experience/challenge in your life and how did you overcome it?

Melinda : When my pastor/spiritual father died unexpectedly. I accepted God’s sovereign will and remembered everything he taught me then applied it. Turns out, his wisdom is immortal.

Unoma: Wow, that must have been hard. That I’m sure must have been a dark moment for you. How do you build confident expectations in your dark moments?

Melinda:Reflecting on what God had already brought me through. Remembering those times that seemed impossible and now I laugh about them. I know He’s the same God.

Unoma : That right there is really the key. I talk about that a lot in my upcoming book In The Dark Remembering keeps us anchored and it gives us hope to push through.How does your understanding of the future give you hope for the present?

Melinda: That God cannot lie and no matter what I face, His promises are real and I can trust it, if I just hold on and faint not.

Unoma: Yes girl! Even when we are faithless, He remains faithful.His promises are sure because of who He is and not anything we have done. My next question is, what does it look like practically for you to “turn to the cross” in your business/ministry?

Melinda:Run to my prayer closet, throw my tantrum so that I’m honest and vulnerable with God, then repent for complaining. Once I get rid of the emotions, then I can hear Him clearly. I apply what He speaks and it’s all good.

Unoma: I’m glad somebody else cries. I breakout the ugly tantrum cry just to clear my chest. You’d think I was a child. Speaking of, what advice would you give your younger self?

Melinda : If you obey God the first time what you think you’ll miss out on you’ll find isn’t even worth it.

Unoma: Sage words. Aww, can’t be believe, we’re almost done. So what’s next for you?

Melinda: Quite a few things, • Next book in my love series – Breach of Faith – Book II
• Next book in my war series – My Brother’s Daughter – Book 8 • Speaking engagements
• Creating personal warfare strategies for people to overcome specific obstacles in their lives (Spiritual Life Coach)

Unoma: That’s a lot and I will be praying for you.Okay so tell the readers hoe they can keep in touch.

Melinda :FB – Melinda Michelle. IG – TheMelindaMichelle. TW – MelindaMichell  Email website

Unoma: Thank you.

I hope you enjoyed Melinda’s interview. Here is her official bio: Melinda Michelle is a Florida native. She was born in Jacksonville and raised in Sanford. Reading has been a part of her life from a very young age. Growing up in a family of avid readers exposed her to various genres of writing creating an eclectic taste in books. She is the author of 14 published works in the genre of Christian fiction in the areas of suspense, romance and thrillers.

I’m having so much fun and I hope you are being encouraged. You are never alone. We all go through life’s dark moments, how we manage them often determines the outcome. Being intentional about reminding ourselves of, and being confident of God’s promises helps a lot.Light Pearls in the Dark, my Confident Expectation Prayer Journal does just that for you. It is FREE with your pre order of In The Dark

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Blessings

Unoma.