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Flashlight Moments In the Dark Series Presents: Nigeria Lockley

If you have been folowing me for a while you would be no stranger to Nigeria Lockley or as I like to call her sissy. She is my adopted online sister and business bestie. So you know I couldn’t do a series without having her on here to give you her insight. I could talk about her all day long but let me step aside so you could read for yourself.

Unoma : Who is Nigeria Lockley?

Nigeria : Nigeria Lockley is a child of the most High God, unapologetically walking in her passion and purpose. In the past whenever I would answer questions like this I would always rattle of a bunch of titles until I realized that being my titles are not where my identity lies. My identity is in my creator.

Unoma: In 10 words or less can you create a quote that describes you and your purpose journey?

Nigeria: Pressure is preparation for promotion.

Unoma : What is the driving force in your life?

Nigeria: Christ’s commitment to me is the driving force in my life. I all that I do is to reflect the change He made in my life and the second chance, or rather multiple chances He’s given me. I’m not one of those people who discovered their gift late or accidentally. I’ve known I wanted to write since I was a very young child, but I squandered my gift and spent a number of years just smoking weed, partying, drinking, and not living up to my potential.

Unoma : How do you balance family, faith and your passion/business?

Nigeria : Faith first, ME (this is capitalized purposely) next, family, and then everything I am passionate about. Many women sacrifice themselves for some greater cause, “motherhood”, “marriage”, or “business”, but I’ve discovered that if I’m not okay nothing else I do is going to be okay.

Unoma: What was the single most devastating experience/challenge in your life and how did you overcome it?

Nigeria: At sixteen I found out that my father had moved from his super. That was probably the most devastating experience I ever had. Before that happened my father had what I would describe as a good relationship, so I thought of the reasons I should forgive him and I forgave him. I learned to be thankful for his absence. I accepted Romans 8:28 as my verse for this situation when I came to Christ–everything that I am is because of my father’s absence not in spite of. And since I’m one of the women you selected to interview for this series that means I didn’t turn out too bad.

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Unoma:  How do you build confident expectations in your dark moments?

Nigeria: At this point now I do two things–I recall the dark moments that He has guided me through and when I am still feeling discouraged I turn to my best friend who is centered in Christ and only gives me about a day to mourn whatever I’m in the dark about and then it’s time to move like I know God.

Unoma: How does your understanding of the future give you hope for the present?

Nigeria: I don’t understand the future at all, so it doesn’t inform my present. Rather, my understanding of God and His ironclad promises give the hope to get through present situations that might be distressing.

Unoma: What does it look like practically for you to “turn to the cross” in your business/ministry.

Nigeria: In my business turning to the cross is me praying before I write a book, fasting before making huge decisions, and just sitting still (I know it’s hard to believe), but after I pray I just sit and listen for a response or I pray for a vision and clarity.

Unoma: What advice would you give your younger self?

NIgeria : Serve God wholeheartedly. My younger self was into so much and constantly backsliding. Ever since I turned myself over fully to God there isn’t a door He hasn’t opened for me. Could you imagine what my would be like had I submitted sooner.

Unoma: What can we look forward to from you this year? OR What are you working on?

Nigeria: This year I’m hoping to release at least two books, Berri & Delilah, and Saving Grace and some ebooks on marketing for authors.

Here’s more about Nigeria,

Bio:

Nigeria Lockley possesses two Master’s degrees, one in English Secondary Education, which she utilizes as an educator with the New York City Department of Education. Her second Master’s degree is in Creative Writing. Born at Dawn is Nigeria’s first published novel. Nigeria serves as the Vice President of Bridges Family Services, a not-for-profit organization that assists student parents interested in pursuing a degree in higher education. She is also the deaconess and clerk for her spiritual home King of Kings and Lord of Lords, Church of God. Nigeria is a New York native who resides in Harlem with her husband and two daughters. Join her online at http://www.NigeriaLockley.com

Contact

Website: www.nigerialockley.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/authorNigeriaLockley

Instagram: www.instagram.com/NewNigeria

Twitter: www.twitter.com/NewNigeria

Next week, I will have the conclusion to this series with Stacy Hawkins Adams. You do not want to miss it.

Blessings

Unoma.

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Flashlight Moments In the Dark Series Presents: Mojisola Obazuaye

We are back with the concluding episodes to Flashlight Moments in the Dark series. Today I have the pleasure of introducing you to Mojisola Obazuaye or as she by her business name, MojiInTouch.

I first noticed Moji for her fashion style, what kept me interested was her consistency. In fact I think her picture should be next to the word consistency in the dictionary. It amazes me and I simply admire it. However I know that as creatives, there are always times when we “don’t feel like it.” So I reached out to Moji to give us a little insight. I hope you enjoy the interview as I did.

Unoma:  Who is Moji Obazuaye?

Mojisola:  I am a Fashion Buyer, Blogger, Writer & Social Entrepreneur. I am passionate about helping women look well irrespective of their shape, size, age or budget. I also help clients maximise their online presence by using social media. I am an Amazon Bestselling Author of Use What You Have: How to take your potential to fulfll purpose. I am a Wife and a Mother to 2 boys.

Unoma:  In 10 words or less can you create a quote that describes you and your purpose journey?

Moji: “To die empty”

Unoma: What is the driving force in your life?

Moji: For me, it is God first. I am lost without him.

Unoma:  How do you balance family, faith and your passion/business?

Moji: God’s promise is when I seek HIM first, every other thing is added unto me.  I draw my strength and wisdom from God. Aside the God Factor, I have learnt to map out each day, week and month so I can invest my time wisely and be productive.

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Unoma: What was the single most devastating experience/challenge in your life and how did you overcome it?

Moji: I have two. One was the untimely death of my Father. He was at the peak of his life when he died. It was God who saw me through this phase and I am grateful for his Love. Secondly, the lose of my job. Through this dark period, God gave me a new vision, hope and directed me to my purpose in life. Through this experience, God has opened so many doors and opportunities I may not have found if I didn’t go through that phase of life.

Unoma:  How do you build confident expectations in your dark moments?

Moji: One of the things I do is get on my knees….. In prayers, I see God move. Other way is that I write (journal) my thoughts, prayers, desires, challenges and victories down as a reminder and assurance of God’s promises.

Unoma: How does your understanding of the future give you hope for the present?

Moji: Even though we can not see the future, my hope is tied to Jesus Christ. All my expectations through him will never be cut short.

Unoma: What does it look like practically for you to “turn to the cross” in your business/ministry.

Moji: There is no other way for me than to turn to the cross, Our Lord Jesus Christ.

Unoma: What advice would you give your younger self?

Moji: “Live a little”

Unoma: What can we look forward to from you this year? OR What are you working on?

Moji: 1, I am getting my Masters in Fashion Buying and Management, this is on the top of my goal list this year.

2, I am also working on going on a book tour for my book, “Use What You Have”.

3, I am currently working on mentorship for young adults to be “who they want to be.”

I hope you enjoyed this time we spent with Mojisola. Here is where you can find her.

Bio:

Mojisola Obazuaye is a Stylist, Blogger, YouTube Creator + Amazon Best Selling Author of “Use What You Have.” She is a passionate believer that everyone must find and fulfill their purpose in life. Out of her passion, she created the Moj In Touch blog. She spends her time blogging at www.mojintouch.com, does PR outreach for brands to create digital contents and campaign to maximise their online presence and serves as Image “Coach” to several clients from all walks of life.

Contact

Site: http://www.mojintouch.com/

Email: mojintouch@gmail.com

YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/mojintouch

Facebook: www.facebook.com/mojintouch

Instagram |  Twitter @ Mojintouch

PS: Before you leave I wanted to remind you that In The Dark is now available. The reviews are trickling in and I’m thrilled people are liking it. To God be the glory. Don’t forget to order yours here.

Blessings

Unoma

 

Flashlight Moments in the Dark Presents: Tolulope Popoola

Hi there, Last week I took a break due to a family emergency. All is well and we are back this week with another episode of Flashlight Moments in the Dark. Today I have the pleasure of interviewing another writer friend of mine, Totlulope Popoola. Enjoy

Unoma: Who is Tolulope Popoola?
Tolulope: Tolulope Popoola is an author, flash fiction writer, publisher, writing coach, course tutor and a mixture of all things that add up to a “literary entrepreneur”. She is a wife to a certain Mr. Popoola, and a mother to two wonderful people. She is a reader and lover of words. She is saved by grace and extremely blessed. She is passionate about helping people to fulfill their dreams.
Unoma: In 10 words or less can you create a quote that describes you and your purpose journey?
Tolulope: Trust God, obey and let go of the steering wheel
Unoma: What is the driving force in your life?
Tolulope: God. A passion to fulfil my purpose and reach my potential, to impact people positively, to leave the world better than I met it.
Unoma: How do you balance family, faith and your passion/business?
Tolulope: In my head, these are not separate things, everything I do fits into my life and my purpose. I’m blessed to have the ability to work from home and control my schedule. So if I want to take a couple of hours to pray, praise and enjoy God’s presence, I can. If I need to do motherhood things, I can, and if I need to work around my other commitments, I can too. On a practical level, I have a work calendar and a very detailed spreadsheet, plus a to-do list that keeps me organized. These help me not to get overwhelmed when I think of all the tasks that await me.
Unoma: What was the single most devastating experience/challenge in your life and how did you overcome it?
Tolulope: It was back in 2008 when I started writing my first novel. I had gone quite far, and was nearly done with the novel, when something happened. I came across a review of “In Dependence” by Sarah Ladipo Manyika and the story described sounded eerily similar to my work-in-progress. I immediately had to go and buy a copy of the book to find out. And when I read it, my heart sank. It was as if I was reading my own story, published with somebody else’s name on it. How did this happen? Did someone hack into my computer to steal my manuscript? I mentioned it to my writing mentor and she told me that it’s actually quite common for two writers to have similar ideas and similar storylines, it’s just a matter of who got to the finish line and published first. I researched it and found that it was true, and there have been cases where an author is sued for stealing a story that somebody else had published before. Since I didn’t want any trouble, I finished writing the novel, and filed it away. I was very sad and depressed for a while and even stopped writing for a while, but my mentor encouraged me to get over my disappointment and start working on a new idea.
Unoma: How do you build confident expectations in your dark moments?
Tolulope: I remember who created me and called me to walk on this path. God has proven Himself faithful over and over again, both in the little things and the big things. When I’m in a dark period, I encourage myself by thinking back to the times when I had a breakthrough, or when God showed up for me at the last minute, or when He spoke to me through the darkness and the fog cleared up. I know (even when my emotions are all over the place) that somehow God still listens to me, and He is working things out for my own good.
Unoma: How does your understanding of the future give you hope for the present?
Tolulope: I have big dreams and goals that I want to accomplish, and I know that these dreams were given to me through divine inspiration. As long as I stick with God’s plan for my life, everything will work out well. I’m learning to let God handle the “how” and just let Him lead me.

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Unoma: What does it look like practically for you to “turn to the cross” in your business/ministry.
Tolulope: I carry on a constant conversation with God in my head, I’m always asking for help, advice, wisdom, strength, etc. When things get really overwhelming, I stay in bed and listen to worship songs and pray.
Unoma: What advice would you give your younger self?
Tolulope: Start sooner. Don’t worry about self-doubt, most people battle with it. Go ahead and do your thing anyway.
Unoma: What can we look forward to from you this year? OR What are you working on?
Tolulope: I’m working on a novel and a collection of flash fiction. I’m also going to be doing quite a lot of teaching, coaching and publishing work for other aspiring authors @ Accomplish Press.

I hope you enjoyed Tolulope’s enlightening interview. Find out how to get in contact with her below. Before we do that however I wanted to remind you of a couple of things.
Anchor Talk is my new Podcast: A quick burst of inspiration to take you through the week. Tomorrow I start a confidence series you do not want to miss.Also remember you have a special pre order offer with In the Dark paperback…a free Confident Expectation Prayer Journal(Light Pearls in the Dark)
OK, here is more about Tolulope

Bio:
Tolulope Popoola is an award winning Author, Writing Coach and Publisher. She is the author of “Nothing Comes Close”, a contemporary romance story set in London, Milton Keynes and Lagos, and also the author of two collections of flash fiction stories, “Fertile Imagination” and “Looking For Something”. She has written extensively for many magazines and publications, including Brittle Paper, The Creative Penn, Flash Fiction Ghana, The Mantle, Magunga, The Travelling Yeti, etc.
Tolulope is the founder of Accomplish Press, a coaching, consulting and publishing company that specializes in providing services to support aspiring authors. She was given a special Award of Excellence at the 2016 Nigerian Writers’ Awards, and has recently been shortlisted for Diaspora Writer of the Year for the 2017 awards.
Tolulope was second runner up at the Women In Publishing (UK) Awards 2012, for the New Venture Award for pioneering work on behalf of under-represented groups in society. Tolulope’s first novel Nothing Comes Close was named “one of the best books of 2012” by Africa Book Club. She has also earned the nickname of “Africa’s flash fiction queen” for her unique ways with writing dramatic short stories.

Contact
Email: publisher@accomplishpress.com
Website: http://www.accomplishpress.com
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/TolulopePopoola
Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/TolulopePopoola
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/tolulopepopoola

Flashlight Moments In The Presents: Detola Amure

Thank you for stopping by. Today is the first day of the Flashlight Moments series and I’m excited to bring you a woman whom I’ve admired not only for her work ethic but her strong desire to help Christian Mums achieve their mission here on earth. I had the pleasure of interviewing her and I’d like you to help me welcome to the blog Detola Amure.

Unoma: Okay first off, tell us who is Detola Amure?

Detola: I am the daughter of the most High God, a determined Go getter woman. I am a Productivity and Transformational Growth Mentor. I love life and passionate about helping women find their purpose in life. Some of the ladies I have mentored call me their spiritual midwife. I can only give glory to God for such an assignment. I love to write and be an encouragement to others around me. I am married with two amazing children and live in the UK.

Unoma: Yes, indeed you are a go getter. That was the first thing I noticed when we met online. Your passion shone through Facebook…LOL. In 10 words or less can you create a quote that describes you and your purpose journey?

Detola: Be rest assured, God always makes provision for the vision.

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Unoma: That’s really nice and true. My husband said something like that to me once, years ago and it stuck. Focus on the mission. God got the provision. What is the driving force in your life?

Detola: My driving force is my Abba Father. Without HIM I am NOTHING. The assignment He has given me to fulfill on planet earth, gets me up in the morning and drives me everyday to be better than I was yesterday and to be a blessing to the nation He has sent me too.

Unoma: Amen sister. I couldn’t have said it better. That’s basically what this life is all about. Finding the balance in your mission as an individual and family can be challenging. How do you balance family, faith and your passion/business?

Detola: I always make sure I start my day with God so he can set the agenda for the day. I have noticed that when I surrender my day to Him it goes much better than I could ever envisage. Not that challenges won’t come but I am more equipped to handle them. Also I am learning to embrace my seasons and to say no to anything not in alignment with that season. It can be tough especially when they all look like great opportunities so I always ask God to make it clear to me what I should say no to and what I should say yes too. Rather than trying to find balance, I see my life as a blended life ; with God at the center, directing me on where and what I need to prioritize at every season in my life. Knowing what this priority is helps me stay grounded and balanced.

Unoma: I agree. However sometimes those priorities are not really clear. Or they get overshadowed by a life event that throws you off focus. That’s the main reason I decided it was time to write my upcoming book In The Dark. Having persevering confidence in uncertainty can be daunting. What was the single most devastating experience/challenge in your life and how did you overcome it?

Detola: I have had a few devastating experiences but the one that comes to mind now is getting laid off work when I was three months pregnant with my son. It shook me as for a long time my identity was tied to my career. I didn’t realise this at the time though. I remember crying in my bed, depressed for about 2 weeks. The only time I got out of bed was to get something to eat or use their bathroom. It was that bad! I remember God chastising me, one day during one of my pity parties. I had to ask Him for mercy and to forgive me for making that situation about me. I then asked Him for direction for the next step which He said was to take time out to focus on building Super Working Mum. I also began to realized that my identity is in Him and not in a job title. This was how I overcame the experience.

Unoma: Wow! I can imagine that kind of hopelessness in the moment. It was the same when my apartment burned down years ago. Everything I had was gone…just gone. You wake up one morning with plans and in a matter of hours, the rug is ripped from under you. Hmm. That brings me to my next question. How do you build confident expectations in your dark moments?

Detola: By meditating on the word of God, declaring the word of God out loud, having a support system  and journaling. Journaling allows me to write out my thoughts and also listen for what God is saying to me during the dark moments.

Unoma: I too have recently come to the realization of the effectiveness of journaling. Actually I have been doing it since my teen years but then it was called “writing in a notebook” LOL. But you’re correct, when you intentionalize your thoughts in faith, the possibilities are endless. I wrote about this in a post called The Intentionality of Journaling

(Sidenote: You can check out Detola’s Journal here.)

Unoma: How does your understanding of the future give you hope for the present?

Detola: I can’t say I understand the future or what will happen however I know and trust in the one that holds my future: Jesus. He has promised me a great future so that’s enough hope for me in the present. I am intentionally learning how to trust Jesus and hold his hands tightly even when the future looks bleak.

Unoma: LOL. Yea, imagine if we could see the future, I don’t think we could handle it quite frankly. But that’s what I was referring to, the knowledge that He promised you a great future. So in that vein, what does it look like practically for you to “turn to the cross” in your business/ministry.

Detola: It means on a daily basis surrendering my schedule to God, asking Him what his agenda for the day is and allowing him to lead. It means waking up in the morning and giving thanks to God for another beautiful day, receiving grace and mercy he has provided for each day. I am intentionally learning how to trust Jesus and hold his hands tightly even when the future looks bleak.

Unoma: Committing to God is so important. It helps us remain focused. Especially when we have no control over the action of others. What advice would you give your younger self?

Detola: Hmm! Me to younger self: Aim to please your audience of One: God and no one else. People are fickle and will always change their mind but God never changes his mind about you. So trust Him and be content if the only approval you get is from Him.

Unoma: You are speaking my language ;audience of ONE. Thank you so much for joining me. I’m glad we could have this chat. Before we go what can we look forward to from you this year? OR What are you working on?

Detola: I am working on a new book and a new journal in the Super Working Mum journal series.

Unoma: Great. Looking forward to it. Tell the readers how they can reach you.

DetolaFacebook  Twitter  Instagram and my website www.superworkingmum.com

Unoma: Thank again! Folks, here’s is Detola’s official bio.

Detola Amure (also known as Aloted Omoba) is married to her amazing husband and they have two children. She is the founder of Super Working Mum, an organisation dedicated to helping Christian Mums maximize their time so that they can manifest their God given dreams. She is a Best selling author and an International speaker. She is the creator of the Living Amazed Journal.

I enjoyed putting this interview together for you and I hope you drop a comment and share. Someone out there can benefit from this. It is easy to dance when the light is shining but how do you manage #inthedark? Let me know. Next week I will have another amazing interview.

Remember you can get my Light Pearls In The Dark :Confident Expectations Prayer Journal FREE when you pre-order In The Dark

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Blessings

Unoma.

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