Reminders from Ben…

ben  ******** I wrote this piece for my business page but really needed to share it here also, hope it speaks to you reading as it did to me writing******

The  biggest night in Hollywood has come and gone. We at KevStel group reported every minute of it from our  perspective of course, and from the best seats; our couch. The party was on twitter, have you followed us yet? Please do @kevstelgroup

Foreigners seemed to take the day, wining in almost every major category. If other countries can  ‘almost’ sweep an American Award ceremony that give me hope that one day Africa especially Nollywood; the Nigerian movie industry, also  has the ability to one day do the same. We will have our talented stars sit in the auditorium too, being nominated for something.

Despite all the hoopla of the night, the highlight for me  was the end of the night, when Ben Affleck gave his acceptance speech. He was snubbed for the best director award but his movie took home best picture. Imagine that!!

The speech was flawless and to the point and really made sence. Since the Academy used the JAWS soundtrack to get long-winded people off the stage, he really rushed through the speech but his message was not lost. These are the things I thought were just beautiful;

  • There are still people who are willing to help just for the sake of helping. Not for anything they stand to gain. You know that verse in the bible that says God knows the heart of man? It speaks to motive, why do you do for other people the things you do? Is it to gain something or because it’s the right thing to do? If your motive is not pure the result wont be either. Every way of a man is right in his own eyes, but the Lord weighs the heart~ Proverbs 21:22
  • Do not, do not hold grudges. That is just too much baggage to bear. Some times the person you are holding a grudge against has since moved on. Jesus, advised us that if we are quarrelling with our brother/sister we should settle with them before we come to the altar of God to ask for anything. And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”~ Mark 11:25
  • It doesn’t matter how many times you get knocked down because it’s bound to happen. What matters is you get back up. This one  was what go me to tear up and I think he did too. You see there are sometimes in life when you think that you can’t take one more disappointment, when you can’t take one more ‘no’. It’s bound to happen, when things doesn’t work according to your own grand design but stay strong, persevere, God has got the master plan. Build a good attitude, another NO is just another stepping stone to your greatness. Just belive, keep getting back up, and be ready because it will happen at his appointed time.! Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him~ James 1:12

Be Blessed



Protect Your Seed

seedHi everyone!  This is one rainy and gloomy Saturday, in my neck of the woods. But for the second weekend in a row, I get to leave the laptop for a few hours and take a break from writing or running my business. You see last weekend I went to the circus with the kids, today I’m attending a baby shower. I’m super excited cos this is personal. I’m about to have another nephew!! Yay!!.

I read something this morning and my heart itched to share. My devotion took me to the book of Mathew ,chapter 2 to be precise.  You can read it for your self but to summarize, it was about  Herod  being mad that the three wise men deceived him by not coming back to tell him of the birth of baby Jesus and where He was located. His sole aim was to get hold of the seed ( Jesus Christ) that God had given us. That seed that would reconcile us to Him.  He was dedicated to his mission that he resulted to killing  male children in the hope that one of them would be Jesus. That’s just the devil!!

So also  it was with Pharaoh and Moses, the devil did all he deemed necessary through Pharaoh, trying to stop the germination of the seed God was going to use to save His people; Moses.  There are so many other instances in the bible that this trend continues; when God is about to do a big thing, the devil will look for his helpers that will be motivated to do anything to kill it or thwart the plan. One thing is sure Gods plan will always come to pass one way or the other, it might come in another way but it will be fulfilled.

Christians have to always put on the armor of God so that we will be ready and vigilant to stand up against the devices of the devil to steal our seed.

What is your seed? A lifestyle change, a closer relationship to God, your kids, your job. Being vigilant to beat the devil at his own game is to be aware  that he can come in many forms.

Protect your seed with prayer. After all remember those that kneel to God can stand to anything.

Have a blessed day


Just Another Day- Happy Valentine’s Day

1Corinthians 13 : 13 Three things will last forever–faith, hope, and love–and the greatest of these is love

imagesCAHERYZAThe day is upon us again. You know the day we are pressured in to expressing ‘love’. Come to think of it, it really isn’t love if we got to be pressured into expressing it. I do not aim to deceive, I love romance…. not a big fan of chocolates but I love flowers, cards, soft music leading the whole nine. But then again, I don’t just want it on only one day. Who woke up and made up the Valentine’s Day the ‘love day? Note to self, read on the origin of Valentine’s Day.

At work yesterday, a co-worker appeared with a huge bouquet of 24 long stem red roses. All the way across the hall you could hear the ladies…”awwww”,“he is so sweet”, “that so beautiful.”, “oh wow”, “you are lucky” and I’m thinking all this because someone decided to buy their lady flowers on Valentine’s day. How are we sure the purpose is his ‘love’ and not some kind of apology for cheating or knocking her upside the head….LOL… it wasn’t sha but my point is that one day shouldn’t be the yardstick by which to measure the love our spouses have for us.

Love in any marriage or relationship should be that ‘mushy’ feeling we have plus a commitment of wills from both parties. The commitment of wills is true definition of love and keeps the ‘mushy’ feeling alive, if there is no commitment, the’ mushy’ feeling eventually dies. Love is not a feeling emotion that is only based off how we feel in that moment but a doing kind of love which we perform whether we feel like or not. It can only be nurtured by taking care of the seed planted in the beginning.  Making sure we pull the weeds (bad people/influences in our lives) watering the seed( being around fellow godly people that will feed into your life after all they say iron sharpens iron). When we do this, we will be celebrating Valentine’s Day every single day.

Love should not be celebrated on just one day; it should be celebrated and practiced every day, in our actions towards our spouses and others. God showed us His love by sending his son to die for us; Jesus showed his love by laying down his Life in accordance with the will of the father and the Holy Spirit shows loves by directing our paths every day. Love is a beautiful thing but lets not relegate it to just a day…..After all  Three things will last forever–faith, hope, and love–and the greatest of these is love~1 Cor 13:13

*getting off my soap box* have a wonderful Valentine’s Day.



When to say When

pope  During my drive into work this morning, I turn on the radio; you know to get my usual praise on. Suddenly the news came on…Pope Benedict has resigned this morning, effective in two weeks. I was shocked, raised Catholic, I have never, ever, ever heard this happen. I thought the person appointed to be Pope was supposed to ‘die’ in that position. Got on twitter and it was true along with a barge of jokes about it too. Hilarious I might add but I digress. I was just in awe that he had made this decision.. I know he gave his reason in a statement but mehn… that wouldn’t have been an easy decision. This has never been done in recent times; the last time it was done was some 600 years ago….


rayLast week Ray Lewis had his second Super Bowl win with the Baltimore Ravens. Some months before he told us that he was leaving the game of football. In my opinion Ray Ray story is one of redemption, thirteen years ago in Atlanta, I thought it was over for him, but he escaped going to jail and he worked on turning his career around. My point is really not about his past but his decision to call it quits when he was still at the top of his game.  That must have been a difficult decision but he did it. His nice little going away present was another ring on the way out.


What do these two men have in common? They knew when to say when…. The bible tells us There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens Ecc 3:1. I will not go into details about this verse because I believe that we all know it so well, the challenge however is to know when to hold on and when to let go. Remember that Kenny Rodgers song You got to know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em,. Know when to walk away, know when to run Sometimes in the course of our life people or things come in that God sent to perform a specific purpose then leave.. They are only supposed to be there for a season; to perform a specific task. Even your ‘haters ‘ are put in your life for a reason;  to help you move to the next place or to help you while you are in your present place. But do you know when it’s time to let go? No matter how difficult or painful it might be. Holding on to a season when it’s over can be very stunting….it stunts you emotionally, spiritually and physically. You begin to loathe it, it becomes a burden….

 Another struggle we all have is recognizing our season isn’t here yet? We try helping God do what He is supposed to do because we believe our time is now. Your time might not be his time, He might be taking you through a process to bring you to where you ought to be.


Let’s pray for a discerning spirit so we will know when to hold on and when to let go. The decision by these two men could not have been easy but maybe, just maybe they heard God telling then it was time to say “WHEN…”

Be Blessed


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