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Flashlight Moments In the Dark Presents: Melinda Michelle

Hey y’all! Happy Valentines Day. It’s another Tuesday and today I welcome Melinda Michelle. She is known for her stories of warfare but that wasn’t what I got to know her for. No sir! I got to know her for her famous #GMMERants. Chile, they are off the chain. Here is an example…

#GMMERant: This one goes out to all the fast food restaurants that UNDER condiment! Listen…listen…listen. First of all…I’m a grown behind woman! What am I supposed to do with three ketchup packets? Really?! Like really?! It was your bright idea to have grown up fries, not mine. You could’ve had shoe strings, but you wanna be all fancy with crinkles and seasoned salt which requires EXTRA ketchup, cuz that ain’t regular salt! Then if I think, oh let me use the other sauce I got, that ain’t enough cuz you only give one of them then you want to charge for extra as if y’all ain’t high enough!!!! Listen, I know the struggle is real for everybody but the money y’all save on soda cuz of all the ice you use, you need to invest in ketchup packets!!! And for all of you that say, oh all you have to do is ask for more…LIES! When you ask for more they look at you like you have to pull out a birth certificate and a passport to prove you’re a US citizen and must pledge allegiance to their red, white and blue ketchup packet (yes Zaxby’s I’m throwing shade!) Anyways…just STINGY! I’m moving on with my life now, but all crew members expect a side eye!

Signed,
Choking on Potatoes

#TheyStingy #WhatHappenedToSharingIsCaring #IsntMyKetchupInThatOneCentExtraTaxIVotedFor #YallPlayTooMuch #UseShoeStringFriesIfYallGonBeCheap

I remember drinking a soda and aimlessly scrolling Facebook when I came across a #GMMERant. I chocked on my drink. She now does them few and far in between but when she does, I know she is thinking about me because she knows I love them. 😉

I have the pleasure of interviewing her today so lets get right to it.

Unoma: Who is Melinda Michelle?

Melinda: A woman that likes to laugh, wants to please God and trying to stay sane in an insane world.

Unoma: Yea we all need to laugh. It relieves a lot of stress and you really know how to make people do it too.In 10 words or less can you create a quote that describes you and your purpose journey?

Melinda: “My yes to God is one scary thing I’d repeat.”

Unoma: Oh wow! Now that’s a lot packed into that one sentence. Saying yes to Him is so scary. Sometimes I ask, “Are you sure God?” What would you say is the driving force in your life?

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Melinda: Fulfilling my Kingdom Purpose and missing no soul attached to my assignment.

Unoma : Yes I love that. Contrary to the popular belief, kingdom business comes with serious trials. So, fulfilling it is not for the faint at heart. Which is why I’m passionate about championing others through the dark places. You know those places of uncertainty. My next question is, how do you balance family, faith and your passion/business?

Melinda: Right now, it’s just me, but it still has its challenges. Every season I go to God and ask Him for a plan to organize my life. I follow it and it still leaves room for me to live life which makes the hard work worth it.

Unoma :I love it. A common mistake those that are still single make it not utilizing the season they are in. Trust me I know…LOL. Okay now let’s get into the deep stuff.What was the single most devastating experience/challenge in your life and how did you overcome it?

Melinda : When my pastor/spiritual father died unexpectedly. I accepted God’s sovereign will and remembered everything he taught me then applied it. Turns out, his wisdom is immortal.

Unoma: Wow, that must have been hard. That I’m sure must have been a dark moment for you. How do you build confident expectations in your dark moments?

Melinda:Reflecting on what God had already brought me through. Remembering those times that seemed impossible and now I laugh about them. I know He’s the same God.

Unoma : That right there is really the key. I talk about that a lot in my upcoming book In The Dark Remembering keeps us anchored and it gives us hope to push through.How does your understanding of the future give you hope for the present?

Melinda: That God cannot lie and no matter what I face, His promises are real and I can trust it, if I just hold on and faint not.

Unoma: Yes girl! Even when we are faithless, He remains faithful.His promises are sure because of who He is and not anything we have done. My next question is, what does it look like practically for you to “turn to the cross” in your business/ministry?

Melinda:Run to my prayer closet, throw my tantrum so that I’m honest and vulnerable with God, then repent for complaining. Once I get rid of the emotions, then I can hear Him clearly. I apply what He speaks and it’s all good.

Unoma: I’m glad somebody else cries. I breakout the ugly tantrum cry just to clear my chest. You’d think I was a child. Speaking of, what advice would you give your younger self?

Melinda : If you obey God the first time what you think you’ll miss out on you’ll find isn’t even worth it.

Unoma: Sage words. Aww, can’t be believe, we’re almost done. So what’s next for you?

Melinda: Quite a few things, • Next book in my love series – Breach of Faith – Book II
• Next book in my war series – My Brother’s Daughter – Book 8 • Speaking engagements
• Creating personal warfare strategies for people to overcome specific obstacles in their lives (Spiritual Life Coach)

Unoma: That’s a lot and I will be praying for you.Okay so tell the readers hoe they can keep in touch.

Melinda :FB – Melinda Michelle. IG – TheMelindaMichelle. TW – MelindaMichell  Email website

Unoma: Thank you.

I hope you enjoyed Melinda’s interview. Here is her official bio: Melinda Michelle is a Florida native. She was born in Jacksonville and raised in Sanford. Reading has been a part of her life from a very young age. Growing up in a family of avid readers exposed her to various genres of writing creating an eclectic taste in books. She is the author of 14 published works in the genre of Christian fiction in the areas of suspense, romance and thrillers.

I’m having so much fun and I hope you are being encouraged. You are never alone. We all go through life’s dark moments, how we manage them often determines the outcome. Being intentional about reminding ourselves of, and being confident of God’s promises helps a lot.Light Pearls in the Dark, my Confident Expectation Prayer Journal does just that for you. It is FREE with your pre order of In The Dark

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Oh before you go, can you do me a favor and fill out this short survey?

Blessings

Unoma.

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Flashlight Moments In The Presents: Detola Amure

Thank you for stopping by. Today is the first day of the Flashlight Moments series and I’m excited to bring you a woman whom I’ve admired not only for her work ethic but her strong desire to help Christian Mums achieve their mission here on earth. I had the pleasure of interviewing her and I’d like you to help me welcome to the blog Detola Amure.

Unoma: Okay first off, tell us who is Detola Amure?

Detola: I am the daughter of the most High God, a determined Go getter woman. I am a Productivity and Transformational Growth Mentor. I love life and passionate about helping women find their purpose in life. Some of the ladies I have mentored call me their spiritual midwife. I can only give glory to God for such an assignment. I love to write and be an encouragement to others around me. I am married with two amazing children and live in the UK.

Unoma: Yes, indeed you are a go getter. That was the first thing I noticed when we met online. Your passion shone through Facebook…LOL. In 10 words or less can you create a quote that describes you and your purpose journey?

Detola: Be rest assured, God always makes provision for the vision.

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Unoma: That’s really nice and true. My husband said something like that to me once, years ago and it stuck. Focus on the mission. God got the provision. What is the driving force in your life?

Detola: My driving force is my Abba Father. Without HIM I am NOTHING. The assignment He has given me to fulfill on planet earth, gets me up in the morning and drives me everyday to be better than I was yesterday and to be a blessing to the nation He has sent me too.

Unoma: Amen sister. I couldn’t have said it better. That’s basically what this life is all about. Finding the balance in your mission as an individual and family can be challenging. How do you balance family, faith and your passion/business?

Detola: I always make sure I start my day with God so he can set the agenda for the day. I have noticed that when I surrender my day to Him it goes much better than I could ever envisage. Not that challenges won’t come but I am more equipped to handle them. Also I am learning to embrace my seasons and to say no to anything not in alignment with that season. It can be tough especially when they all look like great opportunities so I always ask God to make it clear to me what I should say no to and what I should say yes too. Rather than trying to find balance, I see my life as a blended life ; with God at the center, directing me on where and what I need to prioritize at every season in my life. Knowing what this priority is helps me stay grounded and balanced.

Unoma: I agree. However sometimes those priorities are not really clear. Or they get overshadowed by a life event that throws you off focus. That’s the main reason I decided it was time to write my upcoming book In The Dark. Having persevering confidence in uncertainty can be daunting. What was the single most devastating experience/challenge in your life and how did you overcome it?

Detola: I have had a few devastating experiences but the one that comes to mind now is getting laid off work when I was three months pregnant with my son. It shook me as for a long time my identity was tied to my career. I didn’t realise this at the time though. I remember crying in my bed, depressed for about 2 weeks. The only time I got out of bed was to get something to eat or use their bathroom. It was that bad! I remember God chastising me, one day during one of my pity parties. I had to ask Him for mercy and to forgive me for making that situation about me. I then asked Him for direction for the next step which He said was to take time out to focus on building Super Working Mum. I also began to realized that my identity is in Him and not in a job title. This was how I overcame the experience.

Unoma: Wow! I can imagine that kind of hopelessness in the moment. It was the same when my apartment burned down years ago. Everything I had was gone…just gone. You wake up one morning with plans and in a matter of hours, the rug is ripped from under you. Hmm. That brings me to my next question. How do you build confident expectations in your dark moments?

Detola: By meditating on the word of God, declaring the word of God out loud, having a support system  and journaling. Journaling allows me to write out my thoughts and also listen for what God is saying to me during the dark moments.

Unoma: I too have recently come to the realization of the effectiveness of journaling. Actually I have been doing it since my teen years but then it was called “writing in a notebook” LOL. But you’re correct, when you intentionalize your thoughts in faith, the possibilities are endless. I wrote about this in a post called The Intentionality of Journaling

(Sidenote: You can check out Detola’s Journal here.)

Unoma: How does your understanding of the future give you hope for the present?

Detola: I can’t say I understand the future or what will happen however I know and trust in the one that holds my future: Jesus. He has promised me a great future so that’s enough hope for me in the present. I am intentionally learning how to trust Jesus and hold his hands tightly even when the future looks bleak.

Unoma: LOL. Yea, imagine if we could see the future, I don’t think we could handle it quite frankly. But that’s what I was referring to, the knowledge that He promised you a great future. So in that vein, what does it look like practically for you to “turn to the cross” in your business/ministry.

Detola: It means on a daily basis surrendering my schedule to God, asking Him what his agenda for the day is and allowing him to lead. It means waking up in the morning and giving thanks to God for another beautiful day, receiving grace and mercy he has provided for each day. I am intentionally learning how to trust Jesus and hold his hands tightly even when the future looks bleak.

Unoma: Committing to God is so important. It helps us remain focused. Especially when we have no control over the action of others. What advice would you give your younger self?

Detola: Hmm! Me to younger self: Aim to please your audience of One: God and no one else. People are fickle and will always change their mind but God never changes his mind about you. So trust Him and be content if the only approval you get is from Him.

Unoma: You are speaking my language ;audience of ONE. Thank you so much for joining me. I’m glad we could have this chat. Before we go what can we look forward to from you this year? OR What are you working on?

Detola: I am working on a new book and a new journal in the Super Working Mum journal series.

Unoma: Great. Looking forward to it. Tell the readers how they can reach you.

DetolaFacebook  Twitter  Instagram and my website www.superworkingmum.com

Unoma: Thank again! Folks, here’s is Detola’s official bio.

Detola Amure (also known as Aloted Omoba) is married to her amazing husband and they have two children. She is the founder of Super Working Mum, an organisation dedicated to helping Christian Mums maximize their time so that they can manifest their God given dreams. She is a Best selling author and an International speaker. She is the creator of the Living Amazed Journal.

I enjoyed putting this interview together for you and I hope you drop a comment and share. Someone out there can benefit from this. It is easy to dance when the light is shining but how do you manage #inthedark? Let me know. Next week I will have another amazing interview.

Remember you can get my Light Pearls In The Dark :Confident Expectations Prayer Journal FREE when you pre-order In The Dark

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Blessings

Unoma.

Don’t forget you can get your FREE Motivation To Transformation Guide here and be one of the first to get a seat at my new webinar coming soon.

#GoodReadFriday: Hope & My Fiction Ep.1

Hope is a reoccurring theme on this blog and my books. If you want to know why read this post I did a while ago There’s A Reason .My fictional characters have in one way or another let go of what they know to be true because of something that happened to them or those they love.

Over the course of my journey, I’ve had new following which I’m thankful for so I decided to feature my books as a reminder that you can escape into the the beautiful world of fiction and be edified as you relate with the story. During the course of the tale, they regain hope in the one true God. They are able to glow In The Dark by building back their confident expectations in the promises of God.

Sons of Ishmael: The Danjumas

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In this series, you get to delve into the lives of two brothers who lost hope because of the actions of their father and consequence of that action for them and their mother. They held on to their convictions until they met two women who shifted their perspective through faith and romance.

In book 1, A Scoop of Love, heir to the Danjuma empire, Rasheed is forced to confront past hurts and deal with the head strong caterer, Ibiso who is determined to have him check his baggage at the door. Will their love stand a chance?
In book 2, Anchored By Love, One night took Jabir & Damisi back to the very beginning, where they are forced to face old scars. They thought they were done but neither was prepared for what fate had in store.

The Sons of Ishmael Series
Available in Print/Kindle/Nook/Kobo

Just like Rasheed & Jabir were able to glow in their dark place, we are called to do the same. Don’t forget to preorder your copy of my new book In The Dark. With undisguised testimony, tips and tricks, In The Dark will guide you through those times when you wonder what the end game really is.

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Blessings

Unoma.

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5 Reasons I Regret My Journaling Mistake.

Growing up and being the only girl and kinda of a loner, writing was(and still is) my get away. Throughout my teen to early adult years, I would buy a fancy notebook every year and I will write in it everyday. It was more than a diary, because it wasn’t a “I did this today, I did that today.” It was my pouring out my thoughts on life, relationships, dreams,spirituality and just talking to God.I had more than 10 of those notebooks. One thing I did which I regret is that I never opened it after the year ended. In fact I destroyed them on the last day of each year.

I guess I did that for a number of reasons, a lot of hurt feelings and wounds I never wanted to re read or carry into the new year. As far as I was concerned, it was over, I learnt and move one. That was my one regret because, re reading them would’ve allowed me to see how much I had grown. Hey I was a teenager what did I know right?

Who knew that I was journaling and it would become a “thing.” Writing things down as you envision them is a very powerful exercise in being intentional. Habakkuk 2 tells us that exact thing. To write the vision down.

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Here are 5 reason you should journal and subsequently 5 more reasons I regret destroying my old journals. But again, I was a teenager/young adult 🙂

Help you track brilliant ideas: You can do this with your smartphone but nothing is more invigorating than seeing your ideas on pen and paper. Or is it just me?
Helps you track past victories: Keeping track of what has gone well in your life, personal or business helps you push forward on days when things don’t go so great.
Makes you more self-aware: You are able to control the thoughts you let control you.
Helps you maintain an attitude of gratitude: As you write, you have a chance to see the good things that have happened to you and be grateful.
Saves relationships: Funny this is my favorite. Instead of speaking the words, I vent on paper, then I’m able to collect my thoughts and lace my words with grace. It’s stress relieving. Try it.

As a writer, I always have a notebook and a couple of pens with me for book & business ideas. I also have a prayer journal where I write down promises of God so that I remember them when the enemy strikes…because we all know he will.Especially In The Dark places of our life, he will try to shake our confident expectations in God’s promises.

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When writing In The Dark, I decided to create a journal focusing on confident expectations. This 40 day confident expectations journal, titled Light Pearls In The Dark (which is now available  for preorder) contains targeted scripture and songs of praise and worship to keep your mind anchored on God’s promises through your wilderness season.

Do you journal? I’d like to know how it has helped you.

Blessings

Unoma.

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