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2015…In review & My One Goal For 2016

So I see lists and special moments of 2015 all over the place. Hmm I can’t even begin to put mine into perspective…But let me try…

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1.I released my fourth novel in January
2. In July, I traveled back to Nigeria after an 8 year absence for the world premiere of my husbands movie..our labor of love Tempting Fate
3. While there I did a book signing at a bookstore I frequented as a kid.
4. I also gave interviews to a number of television stations
5.In August, I was a SPEAKER at my first Women’s Conference in Atlanta.
6. In September, I had my first out of town book conference in Memphis where I TAUGHT my FIRST class with my sissy Nigeria​
7. In October my sophomore novel named “10 Must Read Read African Romances”
8. In November I was nominated in two categories in the Nigerian Writers Awards. Best Faith Writer(When You Let Go & A Scoop of Love) and Best Romance Writer( A Scoop of Love)
9. In December, I released my fifth novel Anchored By Love.
10. I got to see another birthday and spent seven glorious days waking up to an ocean front view.
To God Be the Glory Forever more!!!!
2016…Greater is coming, my main focus will be to chase after my God, because He is good and all the rest will chase after me!!!

Thank you for hanging with me.Your support is invaluable.

Be Blessed


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Forming New Habits In 2016 Featuring Detola Amure

Wow… we made it to the last day of the year. Today for me is a day of reflection and planning. Time waits for no one so I always hit the ground running on day one. There are somethings I want to drop and some I want to pickup. I want to share some good habits with you so I invited my dear friend and sister from across the pond to help me out..She is a super working mom extraordinaire, Detola Amure. See what she got to say….


Forming New Habits in 2016

Compliments of the season dear friends. I know that a lot of people are in reflection mode as we round up 2015. I also believe that a number of us are looking to achieve more success in 2016 at home, relationships, business, career, relationships etc.

John Maxwell once said: “If I could come to your house and spend just one day with you, I would be able to tell whether or not you will be successful”. See, habits are the things we do on a daily basis and our habits determine if our lives will be successful or not.

If you want to be successful, here are 3 new habits I recommend you start forming as we approach the new year:

Habit 1- Think Positively
What we think eventually becomes a reality in our lives. So if we keep thinking about failure or lack we will attract more of that into our lives. Anyone who wants to be successful has to make a conscious effort to think positive thoughts.
The Bible tells us what should constitute our thought life. Whatever we think MUST be:
excellent and
worthy of praise

One way to get rid of negative thoughts and refocus your thoughts is to SPEAK out loud something that matches any of the above. Speak out something “true”, “lovely”, “admirable” or “worthy of praise” etc. When you say something out loud you automatically stop thinking. Try it and see.

Habit 2 – Be Thankful
Instead of complaining about things not going your way, be thankful for what you have. In my book Super Working Mum I talk about putting on our Gratitude Glasses every day. When you view life from a perspective of gratitude, when you are thankful for what you have, you attract more success into your life.

God’s will for us is to always be thankful according to 1 Thessalonians 5:18.

What of when bad things happen, you may ask?

Well, be thankful IN the situation. Be thankful for the opportunity God has to sort out the situation, be thankful for the lessons learnt, be thankful for the victories ahead.

I recommend every morning when you wake or every night before you sleep to write down at least three things you are thankful for in your journal. That will help develop the habit of being thankful.
Habit 3: Meditating on the word of God
This is the “ultimate” habit to form if you want success going forward. Joshua 1:8 is a scripture that supports this:

“Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.”

In simple terms meditation is the act of muttering or repeating something over and over in your mind. The more you meditate on the word of God, the more it becomes alive and active in your spirit.

To develop this habit, you have to read your bible on a daily basis, take any verse that jumps out to you and write it out on a Post It note, or type it out on your phone and set as a reminder throughout the day. Prayerfully ask God to give you a fresh meaning of that scripture and reflect over what it means to you.

So those are the three habits I propose you form from today. Experts say it takes about 21 days to form a new habit so I suggest starting with habit 3 for the next 21 days and see what happens. The more you work on habit 3 the easier you will find habit 1 and 2 to do.

Remember, you cannot change your life until you change your habits.

Praying God’s blessings over you in the new year.

‘Detola Amure


‘Detola Amure (also known as Aloted Omoba) is a wife and mother based in Essex, United Kingdom.
She is a Work Life balance strategist. She is the founder of Super Working Mum which is a global community of Christian Working Mothers who MAXIMISE their time so they can MANIFEST their God given dreams.

She is the author of the Amazon bestselling book Super Working Mum, Living and Loving Life to the fullest and the creator of the Super Working Mum, Living Amazed Journal.

I will be using Detola’s tip,I hope you would too. 2016 is going to be epic y’all. Thank you for hanging with me…help me spread the word. Much love

Be Blessed.


Wants Vs. Needs : A Writer Struggle

So I really haven’t talked about my books in a while (bad author). Yeah I know, I have been pre occupied with a lot. However but I can feel things slowly settling down now and I can get back to doing what I love. Talking about and writing about my faith and romance mixed with some African spice.

With that said I have so many things I want to do competing with things that I absolutely need to do right now. This is a writer struggle or at least my struggle. The reason I struggle is that I have all these characters that are about two books away talking to me or some projects I want to finish. So I just want to stop and write a few scenes, or tackle what’s going on in my head. But the practical part of my brain tells me what needs to happen.

So I had to reevaluate my wants vs needs.

The words wants vs needs written on sticky colored paper over cork board

I really want to start on my special collaboration project. Also to write my ‘revenge’ story, finish two short stories I have exclusively for my subscribers, send out more newsletters and blog more consistently- Motivation Monday, Writer Wednesday & Goodreads Friday. However all these wants are all going to take a small back seat (except blogging & the newsletter I hope) until those things I absolutely need to do.


Now to my needs; I need to finish up Anchored By Love. It is way overdue. I need to prepare the PowerPoint presentation for the workshop I’ll be giving at the Black Writers &Book Clubs Literary Festival in Memphis next month and finally start seriously writing Final Ultimatum, it is due to my publisher (Brown Girl Faith) by November.

So how do I stay focus and finish out the year strong with my writing goals?

  1. Call on my Ever Present Help: First and fore most I’ve called on my Ever Present Help -Jesus. He and I have been talking… “I can’t do this by my might Lord. I have a plan but I’m gonna need you to help me out. Please clear my mind and keep me focused.”
  2. Making a plan : I’ll divide my days into dedicated writing days and dedicated social media days.
  3. Set Time table: My PowerPoint. Anchored By Love and Final Ultimatum all have hard target dates.
  4. Putting everyone on notice: Every living thing..lol in my house has been put on notice. “Mummy has to get this done, She took of the whole month of July for y’all, so you’re gonna chip in and help her do this. No distractions during my blocked out time” Yep that’s the speech I’m gonna give.

Also important, I’m gonna need you to keep me accountable. Check on me through Facebook or Twitter and ask me how I’m doing?

How do you keep focused when your wants and constantly clash with your needs? Drop some advice in the comments.

Be Blessed


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The Preferred Blue Print

lifepurposeI’ve been studying the book of Ephesians this month. I know there are only a few chapters but I am studying not just reading. And I’ve been in chapter 4 for a couple of days now and I am stuck in there. And I wanna tell you the reason why I find the chapter so inspiring…

I have said this so many times before, if you do not know your calling, for develop your passion and it will lead you there. You don’t have a choice on whether to do this or not because on no account should your life be made up of random, unorganized tasks each day. Your purpose, your calling gives your life meaning.

In Ephesians 4, Paul advises us to walk, better still run toward our calling…  “In light of all this, here’s what I want you to do. While I’m locked up here, a prisoner for the Master, I want you to get out there and walk—better yet, run!—on the road God called you to travel. I don’t want any of you sitting around on your hands. I don’t want anyone strolling off, down some path that goes nowhere. And mark that you do this with humility and discipline—not in fits and starts, but steadily, pouring yourselves out for each other in acts of love, alert at noticing differences and quick at mending fences.”

With that in mind, what goals have you set for yourself to do this?  I love late Dr. Munroe’s definition of goals,”they form the preferred flight plan to the desired destination(purpose).” He also said “They are those things that create your priorities, determine your decisions, dictate your companions and predict choices.”

Once you wake up everyday, what you give focus to, the decisions you make, those you hang out with and the choice you make should all center around what God has called you to do. It’s serious business.

I want to remind you today, it’s never to late to start living in your calling. For those of you who are, during your race, keep persevering. We can’t achieve our calling by stepping over people…we run this race in obedience with humility, love, discipline and forgiveness.

So from the beginning of the year until now, how are you doing? Are you running towards your calling everyday?

Be Blessed


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