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Anchor Talk is Here! Episode 1

It’s hers finally and I am so excited!! Anchor Talk launches today!!

I have been talking about starting a Podcast since the idea to write my first non fiction book took root. My book In the Dark: Confident Expectations for Today and Tommorrow is the bedrock for this podcast and my ministry.

The purpose journey of life is not a sprint but a marathon. During life’s journey of purpose you are bound to be met with various obstacles. My passion is to champion you through the uncertainty, the discomfort, the pain and fear especially when you have no idea what God’s end game is.

In this episode, you’ll be able to listen to the story behind this theme, share in the story of the Bible’s most prominent ship wreck and leave equipped with Anchor Scripture to keep you steady until we talk again.

I intended “Anchor Talk “to be an intimate conversation between you and me. A place where our vulnerabilities, insecurities and everlasting hope in God lay bare.

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Flashlight Moments In The Presents: Detola Amure

Thank you for stopping by. Today is the first day of the Flashlight Moments series and I’m excited to bring you a woman whom I’ve admired not only for her work ethic but her strong desire to help Christian Mums achieve their mission here on earth. I had the pleasure of interviewing her and I’d like you to help me welcome to the blog Detola Amure.

Unoma: Okay first off, tell us who is Detola Amure?

Detola: I am the daughter of the most High God, a determined Go getter woman. I am a Productivity and Transformational Growth Mentor. I love life and passionate about helping women find their purpose in life. Some of the ladies I have mentored call me their spiritual midwife. I can only give glory to God for such an assignment. I love to write and be an encouragement to others around me. I am married with two amazing children and live in the UK.

Unoma: Yes, indeed you are a go getter. That was the first thing I noticed when we met online. Your passion shone through Facebook…LOL. In 10 words or less can you create a quote that describes you and your purpose journey?

Detola: Be rest assured, God always makes provision for the vision.


Unoma: That’s really nice and true. My husband said something like that to me once, years ago and it stuck. Focus on the mission. God got the provision. What is the driving force in your life?

Detola: My driving force is my Abba Father. Without HIM I am NOTHING. The assignment He has given me to fulfill on planet earth, gets me up in the morning and drives me everyday to be better than I was yesterday and to be a blessing to the nation He has sent me too.

Unoma: Amen sister. I couldn’t have said it better. That’s basically what this life is all about. Finding the balance in your mission as an individual and family can be challenging. How do you balance family, faith and your passion/business?

Detola: I always make sure I start my day with God so he can set the agenda for the day. I have noticed that when I surrender my day to Him it goes much better than I could ever envisage. Not that challenges won’t come but I am more equipped to handle them. Also I am learning to embrace my seasons and to say no to anything not in alignment with that season. It can be tough especially when they all look like great opportunities so I always ask God to make it clear to me what I should say no to and what I should say yes too. Rather than trying to find balance, I see my life as a blended life ; with God at the center, directing me on where and what I need to prioritize at every season in my life. Knowing what this priority is helps me stay grounded and balanced.

Unoma: I agree. However sometimes those priorities are not really clear. Or they get overshadowed by a life event that throws you off focus. That’s the main reason I decided it was time to write my upcoming book In The Dark. Having persevering confidence in uncertainty can be daunting. What was the single most devastating experience/challenge in your life and how did you overcome it?

Detola: I have had a few devastating experiences but the one that comes to mind now is getting laid off work when I was three months pregnant with my son. It shook me as for a long time my identity was tied to my career. I didn’t realise this at the time though. I remember crying in my bed, depressed for about 2 weeks. The only time I got out of bed was to get something to eat or use their bathroom. It was that bad! I remember God chastising me, one day during one of my pity parties. I had to ask Him for mercy and to forgive me for making that situation about me. I then asked Him for direction for the next step which He said was to take time out to focus on building Super Working Mum. I also began to realized that my identity is in Him and not in a job title. This was how I overcame the experience.

Unoma: Wow! I can imagine that kind of hopelessness in the moment. It was the same when my apartment burned down years ago. Everything I had was gone…just gone. You wake up one morning with plans and in a matter of hours, the rug is ripped from under you. Hmm. That brings me to my next question. How do you build confident expectations in your dark moments?

Detola: By meditating on the word of God, declaring the word of God out loud, having a support system  and journaling. Journaling allows me to write out my thoughts and also listen for what God is saying to me during the dark moments.

Unoma: I too have recently come to the realization of the effectiveness of journaling. Actually I have been doing it since my teen years but then it was called “writing in a notebook” LOL. But you’re correct, when you intentionalize your thoughts in faith, the possibilities are endless. I wrote about this in a post called The Intentionality of Journaling

(Sidenote: You can check out Detola’s Journal here.)

Unoma: How does your understanding of the future give you hope for the present?

Detola: I can’t say I understand the future or what will happen however I know and trust in the one that holds my future: Jesus. He has promised me a great future so that’s enough hope for me in the present. I am intentionally learning how to trust Jesus and hold his hands tightly even when the future looks bleak.

Unoma: LOL. Yea, imagine if we could see the future, I don’t think we could handle it quite frankly. But that’s what I was referring to, the knowledge that He promised you a great future. So in that vein, what does it look like practically for you to “turn to the cross” in your business/ministry.

Detola: It means on a daily basis surrendering my schedule to God, asking Him what his agenda for the day is and allowing him to lead. It means waking up in the morning and giving thanks to God for another beautiful day, receiving grace and mercy he has provided for each day. I am intentionally learning how to trust Jesus and hold his hands tightly even when the future looks bleak.

Unoma: Committing to God is so important. It helps us remain focused. Especially when we have no control over the action of others. What advice would you give your younger self?

Detola: Hmm! Me to younger self: Aim to please your audience of One: God and no one else. People are fickle and will always change their mind but God never changes his mind about you. So trust Him and be content if the only approval you get is from Him.

Unoma: You are speaking my language ;audience of ONE. Thank you so much for joining me. I’m glad we could have this chat. Before we go what can we look forward to from you this year? OR What are you working on?

Detola: I am working on a new book and a new journal in the Super Working Mum journal series.

Unoma: Great. Looking forward to it. Tell the readers how they can reach you.

DetolaFacebook  Twitter  Instagram and my website www.superworkingmum.com

Unoma: Thank again! Folks, here’s is Detola’s official bio.

Detola Amure (also known as Aloted Omoba) is married to her amazing husband and they have two children. She is the founder of Super Working Mum, an organisation dedicated to helping Christian Mums maximize their time so that they can manifest their God given dreams. She is a Best selling author and an International speaker. She is the creator of the Living Amazed Journal.

I enjoyed putting this interview together for you and I hope you drop a comment and share. Someone out there can benefit from this. It is easy to dance when the light is shining but how do you manage #inthedark? Let me know. Next week I will have another amazing interview.

Remember you can get my Light Pearls In The Dark :Confident Expectations Prayer Journal FREE when you pre-order In The Dark




Don’t forget you can get your FREE Motivation To Transformation Guide here and be one of the first to get a seat at my new webinar coming soon.

3 Quick Ways to Navigate the Dark

It’s kinda late for me. Gosh it’s almost midnight and I haven’t slept. Before you know it it’s time to go to the day job. But I had to come in here and get this out to you. You know when the fire burns you can’t rest until you put it out. This kinda falls in line with what I wanted to talk about today.

We’re still in the beginning stages of the quarter/year and in my last blog post we talked about  setting goals and getting things in order. We also talked about how things might not always go according to plan.

That happened to me last week. I met one of my goals but life kinda happened and the others fell by the way side and really didn’t go as I intended. So I find myself staying up late today and possibly tomorrow to get a few things done. Why is it so important to me that I would sacrifice sleep?  Simple, I have a destination in mind. Full time entrepreneurship. Now do I know when that is going to happen? Yea and no. I kinda have an idea but I am fully dependent on God and really #InTheDark on when my expected end will get here.


Does that sound familiar to you. There’s something you’re expecting but you have no idea when it would happen. You’re totally #InTheDark but you remain faithful because you confidently expect God to fulfill His promise to you. Remaining faithful in your now while waiting on your next is crucial to reaching your destination. Will it be easy? Of course not but when have you seen anything good come easy? There will be sacrifices you’d have to make and hurdles you’d have to jump.

Obstacles and detours lace the road to fulfilling purpose, pursuing passion/dreams.
Don’t give up until you see what you believe come to pass. So, how do you navigate in the dark?  Here are 3 ways I remain anchored #InTheDark
1.  Recognize the obstacle. They are not always an outside force, YOU can also be the one standing in your own way.
2.  Pick a verse to give you encouragement and affirm it daily through you trial. One of my favorites is Romans 12:12 “rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer,”
3. Be a blessing to others.
No matter what, push through to tap the greatness that lies within.

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Blessing Unoma

4th Blogoversary…Coming Full Circle

Yesterday, I was doing a lot of updates on the blog, by the way have you looked around recently? Pretty cool huh? But anyway, during my work, I checked out my comments and realized that my 4th year blogoversary passed a couple of days ago. Can you believe it?

I had to think about that for a minute and realized that since I opened up the blog in Oct 2012, it has gone through so many changes. Most important was the fact that this blog…this exact site was born after I’d abandoned my first blog for two years and everything was lost. Sounds confusing ? Okay let me walk you through and why it is so funny I’m where I am in my life right now. God sure has a sense of humor.

So, in 2009, I opened my first blog and called it W.O.M.A.N.C INC. It was the ‘Musing of a lady after God’s Heart’. An inspirational blog that provided stimulus for the soul through articles and discussions. It was supposed to be the blog of a non profit I wanted to start. I was going through a hard time, felt very hopeless so I just wrote about things I was going through that I knew a lot of others might have gone through as well. Was it a success? Sure if you ask me now. But then I wasn’t as matured as I am now. It was successful because I did have a forum where people could come and talk but was I getting a huge amount of traffic as those I was “comparing myself to?” No. Therefore to me, it was a waste of time. Not a success.


Then I had some trials, so why am I talking about what wasn’t working for me? So I shut it down, or rather I abandoned it…stuff expired and I lost 2 years worth of writing. Also the women who came there to talk, also lost a home. Disgraceful. When we don’t walk in purpose & destiny we rob others. I wasn’t confident in my expectations from God to properly guide me. So I gave up.

3 years later, the writing bug which refused to die, started getting on my last nerve. So I opened this up. In full disclosure, it was a cop put. I knew I should’ve been writing a book but I decided that 300+ word blog post is obedience enough. PS: Partial obedience is disobedience.  So this started again as a forum to encourage and build hope. You know the period I went through?My hopelessness?  Well, giving up is something I didn’t want others to do. Around that time I was forced to write that novel(read my publishing story to know how I was forced) So I did some reorganization to make it my online platform. I changed the name, the focus to mainly talk about me as an author. But I kept that hope theme…its just in me. Even my fictional characters struggle in hope at one time or the other. Hence, as you’ve noticed, every week I talk about hope and confident expectations in Monday Musings.

7 books later, I have come full circle. How?  I am taking my passion for helping others build confident expectations through Christ, a lot of steps further. I’ll be making my announcement by the end of the year. I’m excited on what 2017 and the future holds.

On this 4th year, from the bottom of my heart I want to thank all of you for hanging with me.

“Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails” (Proverbs 19:21).

I would love to hear what this blog has meant to you. Drop me a comment.



Oh by the way, you can check out the newly release book The Final Ultimatum here

I’m also offering a FREE Gift Bundle to those who want to join my Anchor Tribe (Hope Anchors the Soul Heb 6:19)  and be encouraged through challenges, inspiration and prayers to build confident expectation through Christ, click here