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Living With Expectancy by Ibiso Danjuma of Bisso Bites

Hey everybody!

Unoma has allowed me to talk to you all. Isn’t the Lord good. Okay so she wanted me to talk about living a life of expectancy. You know she is so passionate about living with the confident expectations in God’s promise. So, let me give you a little bit about me and how I came about living my life in expectancy. I was what you would call the prodigal daughter of my family. I come from a middle class family of four. I am the baby having an older brother that is over bearing but so loving. I was a daddy’s girl before he died and my daddy shielded me from the harshness of the world.

Then I strayed. I met a man who had my nose so wide open that I left my plans, my family  and followed him half way around the country without a ring on it. Who does that? Me that’s who. Well soon after, he up and left me. Kai! The shame ehn… I had to back track and by then, my mother and brother no longer had my time. My family was angry I left and brought disgrace to the family. Adding to that, my mother didn’t understand why I didn’t use my degree to get a reasonable job. She describes me as an ordinary cook. Well not any more. -)

Three years ago, I was lost. My mistakes made me bow my head in shame. But the Lord gives strength to the weary and power to the weak~ Ibiso Danjuma

After my set back I moved to a new city, Abuja and decided to open my own Bistro, anything you can think of Naija food, I’m an expert. Yep I’m tooting my horn, if I don’t who will? I cook other stuff but I love Nigerian food. Now let’s get to the crux of the matter. I had everything going well for two years, the Bistro called Bistro Bites was doing well. I was proud of myself and thankful to God for  a second chance. Then everything was at the brink of falling down the drain when I fell behind on the rent. My dreams, my passion, my second chance would be gone poof if I didn’t come up with N800,000. This is when expectancy came in….

Living with expectancy is the belief that God will do something. I didn’t know how  He would but I knew He would. I had the hope and faith that He would provide a way out for me. Why? Because He said it. Therefore every day I woke up and look to Him, he provided clients, He also allowed tests but through it all I stayed firm. I couldn’t fail the test, not again.  As I stayed in him and continued to look to Him, doing the assignment He sent me on, He showed up and showed out. On of such jobs that would give me some extra money to what I was saving up, I met my husband. Yep I didn’t know it then but the way we met could have wiped all hope from my face( You got to read the book to find out) In that moment, I could have given up but I didn’t. Little did I know God was up to something.

Ibiso Danjuma

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Hi there! This is Unoma. What Ibiso said is so correct. Expectancy means you know He will do something. What it is, you have no idea but in His Sovereignty believe that whatever it is will be good. And Peter directed his gaze at him, as did John, and said, “Look at us.”  And he fixed his attention on them, expecting to receive something from them.  But Peter said, “I have no silver and gold, but what I do have I give to you. In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, rise up and walk!” Acts 3 4-6

Key words from this verse , Look at us ( Always look to God)…He fixed His attention expecting to receive something good( He didn’t know what it was but he knew it would be good)  Rise and Walk( Silver and Gold would have been good too 🙂 ). I mean if he had it he could live more comfortably, but what he was given was what he needed. Have you read a Scoop of Love? Order your copy for just $1.99 here

Blessings

Unoma

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Flashlight Moments In The Presents: Detola Amure

Thank you for stopping by. Today is the first day of the Flashlight Moments series and I’m excited to bring you a woman whom I’ve admired not only for her work ethic but her strong desire to help Christian Mums achieve their mission here on earth. I had the pleasure of interviewing her and I’d like you to help me welcome to the blog Detola Amure.

Unoma: Okay first off, tell us who is Detola Amure?

Detola: I am the daughter of the most High God, a determined Go getter woman. I am a Productivity and Transformational Growth Mentor. I love life and passionate about helping women find their purpose in life. Some of the ladies I have mentored call me their spiritual midwife. I can only give glory to God for such an assignment. I love to write and be an encouragement to others around me. I am married with two amazing children and live in the UK.

Unoma: Yes, indeed you are a go getter. That was the first thing I noticed when we met online. Your passion shone through Facebook…LOL. In 10 words or less can you create a quote that describes you and your purpose journey?

Detola: Be rest assured, God always makes provision for the vision.

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Unoma: That’s really nice and true. My husband said something like that to me once, years ago and it stuck. Focus on the mission. God got the provision. What is the driving force in your life?

Detola: My driving force is my Abba Father. Without HIM I am NOTHING. The assignment He has given me to fulfill on planet earth, gets me up in the morning and drives me everyday to be better than I was yesterday and to be a blessing to the nation He has sent me too.

Unoma: Amen sister. I couldn’t have said it better. That’s basically what this life is all about. Finding the balance in your mission as an individual and family can be challenging. How do you balance family, faith and your passion/business?

Detola: I always make sure I start my day with God so he can set the agenda for the day. I have noticed that when I surrender my day to Him it goes much better than I could ever envisage. Not that challenges won’t come but I am more equipped to handle them. Also I am learning to embrace my seasons and to say no to anything not in alignment with that season. It can be tough especially when they all look like great opportunities so I always ask God to make it clear to me what I should say no to and what I should say yes too. Rather than trying to find balance, I see my life as a blended life ; with God at the center, directing me on where and what I need to prioritize at every season in my life. Knowing what this priority is helps me stay grounded and balanced.

Unoma: I agree. However sometimes those priorities are not really clear. Or they get overshadowed by a life event that throws you off focus. That’s the main reason I decided it was time to write my upcoming book In The Dark. Having persevering confidence in uncertainty can be daunting. What was the single most devastating experience/challenge in your life and how did you overcome it?

Detola: I have had a few devastating experiences but the one that comes to mind now is getting laid off work when I was three months pregnant with my son. It shook me as for a long time my identity was tied to my career. I didn’t realise this at the time though. I remember crying in my bed, depressed for about 2 weeks. The only time I got out of bed was to get something to eat or use their bathroom. It was that bad! I remember God chastising me, one day during one of my pity parties. I had to ask Him for mercy and to forgive me for making that situation about me. I then asked Him for direction for the next step which He said was to take time out to focus on building Super Working Mum. I also began to realized that my identity is in Him and not in a job title. This was how I overcame the experience.

Unoma: Wow! I can imagine that kind of hopelessness in the moment. It was the same when my apartment burned down years ago. Everything I had was gone…just gone. You wake up one morning with plans and in a matter of hours, the rug is ripped from under you. Hmm. That brings me to my next question. How do you build confident expectations in your dark moments?

Detola: By meditating on the word of God, declaring the word of God out loud, having a support system  and journaling. Journaling allows me to write out my thoughts and also listen for what God is saying to me during the dark moments.

Unoma: I too have recently come to the realization of the effectiveness of journaling. Actually I have been doing it since my teen years but then it was called “writing in a notebook” LOL. But you’re correct, when you intentionalize your thoughts in faith, the possibilities are endless. I wrote about this in a post called The Intentionality of Journaling

(Sidenote: You can check out Detola’s Journal here.)

Unoma: How does your understanding of the future give you hope for the present?

Detola: I can’t say I understand the future or what will happen however I know and trust in the one that holds my future: Jesus. He has promised me a great future so that’s enough hope for me in the present. I am intentionally learning how to trust Jesus and hold his hands tightly even when the future looks bleak.

Unoma: LOL. Yea, imagine if we could see the future, I don’t think we could handle it quite frankly. But that’s what I was referring to, the knowledge that He promised you a great future. So in that vein, what does it look like practically for you to “turn to the cross” in your business/ministry.

Detola: It means on a daily basis surrendering my schedule to God, asking Him what his agenda for the day is and allowing him to lead. It means waking up in the morning and giving thanks to God for another beautiful day, receiving grace and mercy he has provided for each day. I am intentionally learning how to trust Jesus and hold his hands tightly even when the future looks bleak.

Unoma: Committing to God is so important. It helps us remain focused. Especially when we have no control over the action of others. What advice would you give your younger self?

Detola: Hmm! Me to younger self: Aim to please your audience of One: God and no one else. People are fickle and will always change their mind but God never changes his mind about you. So trust Him and be content if the only approval you get is from Him.

Unoma: You are speaking my language ;audience of ONE. Thank you so much for joining me. I’m glad we could have this chat. Before we go what can we look forward to from you this year? OR What are you working on?

Detola: I am working on a new book and a new journal in the Super Working Mum journal series.

Unoma: Great. Looking forward to it. Tell the readers how they can reach you.

DetolaFacebook  Twitter  Instagram and my website www.superworkingmum.com

Unoma: Thank again! Folks, here’s is Detola’s official bio.

Detola Amure (also known as Aloted Omoba) is married to her amazing husband and they have two children. She is the founder of Super Working Mum, an organisation dedicated to helping Christian Mums maximize their time so that they can manifest their God given dreams. She is a Best selling author and an International speaker. She is the creator of the Living Amazed Journal.

I enjoyed putting this interview together for you and I hope you drop a comment and share. Someone out there can benefit from this. It is easy to dance when the light is shining but how do you manage #inthedark? Let me know. Next week I will have another amazing interview.

Remember you can get my Light Pearls In The Dark :Confident Expectations Prayer Journal FREE when you pre-order In The Dark

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Blessings

Unoma.

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