A Sitdown with Jabir & Damisi Danjuma

Hi there ladies and gents,

I had this interview stashed away but other things came up. First, I had to do promo for the first two books in the Sons of Ishmael series. Then I tidied up Mended With Love and believe it or not, I am already in half way in my 2018 release.

This interview takes place before the couple’s Abuja wedding. That is before the interview I did with Rasheed & Ibiso.

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Since they were in the Detroit and I was in Atlanta, I Skyped them for a quick chat. So without further ado here they are….Jabir & Damisi

When we start the interview Jabir was on his way home from work. He was late but I got started anyway.

Unoma :Hey Lady. How have you been? You look great.

Damisi: Hey Unoma, thanks, so do you. I’ve been doing well. Things have finally settled down.

Unoma: It was crazy there for a minute.

Damisi: You have no idea, It was like I was about to lose my mind.

Unoma: But you pulled through. (I laugh) We can laugh about it now but you do understand while the fans were so vicious in their attacks?

Damisi: I would be lying if I say I didn’t understand their annoyance. The minute I took a public mantle, I had a platform and I was a role model to some whether I wanted that responsibility or not. So I do get it but a sister wanted to crawl under a rock somedays.

Unoma:But that man had you sha. Six whole years. You kept it together for so long, then you just surrendered huh? (LOL)

Damisi bugs her eyes at me in mock surprise: Have you met my husband. He is charming, sexy, smart, loving and caring. I could do without his over bearance. And his arrogance…you have to love him to get it.

Jabir: But you still like it though.(Jabir walks in and kisses Damisi full on the mouth. He doesn’t even care that I’m sitting there and I got to go get dinner started in my own house)

Unoma: Jay…(I laugh when he gives me a warning look and wraps his hand over his wife’s shoulder, pulling her closer to him) What? That’s the only way I could get your lips off her long enough to answer my questions.

Jabir: What you got? How you doing? You look good.

Unoma Why thanks. You don’t look to bad yourself. At least you don’t look like what you’ve been through.

Jabir: No I don’t. Thank God but it was rough for a while.

Unoma: Yea that’s what I and Dami were just talking about. She understood where the fans where coming from in their criticism of her.

Jabir: Fan or not,  I not I wanted to sue each and everyone of them. But we got through that and then…

Damisi: Angela wanted to rear her ugly head. I mean she is cute but that situation made me sick to my stomach.

Jabir: And I’ll spend the rest of my life making up to you.(he kisses her forehead)

Unoma: Aww isn’t that sweet. How are the twins?

Jabir & Damisi : Spoiled.

Damisi: And it is going to get a whole lot worse when we go home for the wedding in a couple of months.

Unoma: Are you excited?

Jabir: Me I’m like whatever but whatever my baby wants she gets.( Jabir’s phone rings and he looks at it.) I gotta get this.

Unoma: So how is your family doing? Dad better?

Damisi: Oh yes, he is much better. I thank that man over there( she points to Jabir by the fireplace talking on the phone.) He sends him money and checks on him medically often

Unoma: So what’s next?

Damisi: Mosaic is doing really well. What started off as a way to share my pain had blossomed into something cool.

Unoma: That;s how it always is. We gotta use our pain for purpose.

Jabir: Sorry about that ladies. Unoma, Kammy says to ask you if you coming to Naija for the wedding. You and him got things to discuss.

Unoma: Tell that man to let me be great. When I interview Rasheed and Ibiso he can say whatever he want to say then.

Suddenly one of the babies start crying.

Damisi: That’s my que. I will talk you soon girl. Thank you for telling our story. It wasn’t an easy one but it was so worth it. (She kissed Jabir’s cheek and left.)

Unoma: All right Dami. Thanks for talking with me. I turn to Jabir) So how is the family life?

Jabir smiles so wide, I can literally count his teeth: It’s what I never knew I wanted but can;t breath without. Those three ladies are my life.

Unoma: I bet. You want a boy?

Jabir turned back like in feigned fear: Why you trying to cause friction in my happy home? (We share a laugh) Yes I do I need to even things out a bit, but Dami will kill me if I even mention it now. But Imma get my boy believe that( he winks)

Damisi yells: Baby, I need some help.

Jabir stands: The madam calls I gotta go but Ill see you soon.

Unoma: A’ight cool. Kiss the babies for me.

Jabir will do

We end the call.

I hope you enjoyed my short time with them

Kammy is coming in 2 days…Have you ordered your copy? You can do so here

Blessings

Unoma

 

 

 

 

 

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Living With Expectancy: Damisi Danjuma of Mosiac

Hello Everyone,

Damisi here! Did you catch Ibiso’s article a couple of weeks ago? I loved it, if you missed it get it here. As I was preparing to my article I had to really contemplate over where God has brought me from. You see for me, my struggle played out in the public eye. Oh, I wanted to hang my head in the sand and just die. It is harder when you fall from the pedestal the public put you on. However, for me, I didn’t just fall but I was condemned. Condemnation came from the fact that I should have known better. After all, Christians never make mistakes, right? (Side eye)

Living an expectant life is also about forgiving yourself for past mistakes, accepting His forgiveness and walk in the predestined purpose He’s called for you. It means knowing that your latter days will be greater than your former day no matter how dark your reality is.

My reality was so dark after the huge scandal that broke out. I couldn’t forgive myself because I acknowledged that at a point, I stopped trusting to the Holy Spirit to move my television show the way it was supposed to go. Instead like Sarah, I decided to help Him out. Just like Sarah, it was a disaster. A pure disaster. The press ate me alive. If not for my husband, family and friends I have no idea how I would have survived.

The truth of the matter is that God loves us unconditionally. He will be displeased at our mistakes and we will often have consequences for our mistakes but nothing can separate us from His love. While that is biblically true, raise your hand for me, if sometimes you feel unworthy and so beat yourself up the more.

Through grace my mistakes serve a purpose, instead of serving shameDamisi Danjuma

I have my two hands raised high. That was me. I was forgiven, I know I was but I couldn’t accept it. So, I keep moping around with my head in the sand. The enemy will try to rob you of your hope. Without hope there is nothing to live for. I got to that point. I was a failure and a disgrace. Sponsor dropped me left and right. I was fired from my job, what more could go wrong? Well everything did, but I have a God who heals the broken hearted and is a lifter of my head but I gotta expect that good things will come out of my mess. And it did. I was fired from my show Becoming Ruth and in the ashes of my despair, the beauty that is known as Mosaic was born. How I came about the name is a real cute story, I tell it in my book Anchored By Love.

A lot of amazing things have happened since God lifted my head from shame. I can’t wait for you to read about them in Kammy’s book, Mended With Love. If you haven’t pre-ordered it do so here. And while you are at it, say a prayer for Ebele because that brother in law of mine has no sense. I do think she can handle him thought

My hubby is doing well. Still overbearing but I and the girls love him regardless. If you haven’t read our story, what are you waiting on. Order it here and catch us tomorrow right here on the blog.

You’ll hear from me soon in Mended releasing Oct 6th…that’s Friday! In the meantime, remember, in the words of Donnie McClurkin…” A Saint is Just a Sinner Who fell down and gets back up.” You will fall, after all we are not Jesus, but don’t ever let the enemy tell you that you can’t get back up. Peter denied Jesus 3 whole times. Jesus was his buddy, they rolled tight. But still he denied Him but Peter got up and on him, Christ built His church.

Damisi Danjuma

Men At Work: A Team of One

Hey Gals & Guys,

Y’all thought I’ll miss this? No way, that knuckle head they call my twin, Kammy,  is coming up and I gotta be a part of this.  You heard from my Momsie, from Stone Cold, you also know him as Rasheed, You also heard from my sis in law, Ibiso… now clear the stage it’s my turn.

Unoma says she wanted to me to talk about how my work ethic was influenced by not growing up with a father. That’s simple. It made me rely on myself. Me , myself and I were doing this thing. I wasn’t relying on people or a God who let the people that serve Him suffer.  I know I sounds terrible but for years that was my mindset. Those that have read my story in  Anchored By Love know how the story ends but for years I was really angry. I threw myself into my work and became a team of one.

Before we talk about me, I want to share some practical advantages and disadvantages of working in teams. This can be adopted for those running their business or working a 9 to 5

Advantages:

  1. Two heads are better than one. With more minds you have more ideas. I will also tell you the bad side of this.
  2. You get the necessary support and you are more propelled toward implementation.
  3. Confidence booster. You are able to glean to the stronger qualities of other where you are weaker.

Disadvantages:

  1. Just as two heads are better than one, too many chefs spoil the soup.For every advantage of working in a team, there is the flip side.  Too many people, too many ideas, and too many “experts” to come to an agreement and achieve a good result.
  2. Close minded People who force their point of views.
  3. While a team has the potential to boost up the individual members, it can also make people feel less than others. And this affects participation.

My advise to those of you that have to work in teams is to use the principles of the Bible to navigate your work environment. Make sure the fruits of the Holy Spirit show in you always

Now back to me and my past. I dared to believe that everything I had done and achieved was by my power of might. I dared to believe that I could single handedly navigate my destiny. But God being God used the thing I loved so much. The thing I know Idolized to cut me down a notch. You wanna know how? You have to read my book. But remember He is the Vine and we are the branches, we’ll only bear fruit when we remain in Him John 15:5.

This is so true, I know 🙂

Jabir Danjuma.

Oh on more things my wife is  on tomorrow. Remember to come by and show her some love.

 

A Sitdown With Rasheed & Ibiso Danjuma

So we’ve come to the end of the week, I hope you’ve enjoyed being reacquainted( or meeting) with Rasheed & Ibiso. Anyway, I found this little piece from a sit down I had with these two. It was right after Jabir’s wedding. I cornered them and we had a small chat. You know Rasheed is not a media person however with his wife’s new found fame, he is adjusting but only indulged me for a couple of minutes. Enjoy……………………………………………

I sit at the edge of my chair with my tape recorder. This couple spent months with me but after their wedding we kinda lost touch. Now they have a handsome baby boy. There’s a knock on the door and in walks Ibiso followed by her husband, Rasheed. Her smile is contagious so I relax a bit and returned the emotion. Rasheed on the other hand acknowledged me with a head nod. He wore a serious expression. He had one hand on the small of Ibiso’s back and the other one was holding his phone to his ear. He was engrossed in conversation. I could tell it was business and he was trying to get the person off the phone.

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“Ah Unoma, it’s so nice to see you again,” Ibiso said.

“Same here. You look stunning,” I responded.

I meant it too. She had on a high waist, multicolored, pencil cut Ankara skirt that stopped below her knees. It had a high slit that stopped at her thigh. She wore it with a white short sleeved lace blouse. To compliment her look, she had on some red stilettos and a red clutch bag. Her make up flawless and her low cut was on point. For a minutes I wondered if I could rock my hair that low

By this time Rasheed gets off the phone. “Unoma, you look good.”

“Hey you and don’t flatter me. I’m so tired from dealing with your brothers but thanks anyway.”

Rasheed chuckled. “You gave yourself that job, writing their stories. So that’s on you. Besides they are not that bad.”

“You are so wrong but you can have that,” I said.

Rasheed grabbed Ibiso’s hand as I ushered them to the love seat on the other side of the table.

“Okay I gotta catch a flight back to Atlanta and I know you Rasheed are headed to Lagos in the morning so this is going to be quick,” I said.

Rasheed : “Good deal.”

Unoma: “So how has married life been?”

The couple look at each other and smile. They then turn to me and say “Great.” in unison.

Ibiso : I mean it’s been great in general. Do we disagree? Yes. Does he still get buried in his work and I get on him? Yes. But we keep communication open and listen to the other to understand and not to respond.

Unoma : Nice. I’m so happy. How is Sodienye?

Rasheed: Still getting on my nerves.

I raise my brow. Ibiso laughed and kissed her husbands cheek.

Rasheed: Seriously though, we now have an understanding that she (he points to Ibiso) is all me now. I exist for her and my son. He gets it for the most part but still tries to baby her. I’m the only one allowed to baby my wife.

Unoma: Aww that’s so sweet.

Ibiso: I’m blessed.

Unoma : That you are. So how has parenthood been?

Rasheed : The day he was born I wept. I wept for God to give me the strength and guidance to be to him what mine never was to me and more.

Rasheed puts his head down briefly and Ibiso rubs his back in a circular motion.

Ibiso: And you are baby. A great father.

Ibiso then turns to me. : It has been great. Between my husband, mom and Mama D I have more than enough help. I had enough systems in place to not work in my restaurant for 6 months after giving birth.

Unoma :Wow that was a long time.

Ibiso: Yes it was. I know not everyone can do that but I’m glad I was able to. YoYo and I had so much fun.

Unoma: YoYo?

Rasheed furrowed his eyebrows at Ibiso: I told you to stop calling my son that.

Ibiso laughed “RaRa, why now? It’s cute.

Rasheed :Okay I see you want to be in time out.

They carried on for a few minutes teasing each other like I wasn’t in the room. The love in their eyes couldn’t be denied.

Unoma : Okay, I got one more question for the both of you. What’s next for Danjuma Group and Bisso Bites?

Ibiso: I have finally opened a branch in Lagos. As you know I have a new location here in Abuja. It’s no longer just Amina and I. I am living my dream. A husband and child I adore, my family and I are on great terms and my new family is fantastic. Now that we are done with Jabir’s wedding I cant wait to see what is in store for Kammy.

Rasheed cupped the back of Ibiso’s head and drew her in to place a kiss on her forehead.

Rasheed: Danjuma Group is expanding to East Africa now that we have West Africa down. Next will be South Africa. But that would depend on the environment and the Xenophobia currently going on.

Unoma: I have never understood the reasoning behind xenophobia.

Ibiso: Me either. I got an email from a Mrs. Rice about catering her son’s wedding in South Africa but my baby here isn’t too happy about it.

Rasheed: The only way you are going is if I’m with you.

Ibiso: Yes sir (she gave him a military salute)

Rasheed: Cut it out SoSo.

Unoma: Both of you are so cute together.

Rasheed opened his mouth to object at the term but was interrupted by none other than Kamal Danjuma bursting in the room.

Kamal: Oh my bad. Y’all still in here. Unoma, Stone Cold ain’t got that much going on so what can you possibly be asking him?

Ibiso: Kammy, leave my husband alone.

Rasheed: Leave him to keep running his mouth. He’ll be walking to the airport when it’s time for him to leave in a couple of weeks.

Kamal: Stop threatening the kid. Alright I’m gone.

Kamal walked over to me and pulled me into a hug. “Unoma,  don’t be having me looking corny in your little book.

Rasheed: Bro, get out of here man let her finish. I need to get my family home. I’ll be gone a week I need to make sure my wife is good.

Rasheed winked at Ibiso, She blushed and Kamal made gagging noises.

Kamal: Imma about to go. I ain’t trying to hear all that. Sis, don’t forget to hook those snacks up for me.

Kamal gives us the peace sign and walks out.

Unoma: Okay guy, I’m going to let you go. I think I have enough for the fans. Thank you so much for your time.

I and the couple exchanged hugs and took a couple of pictures before they left. This couple started the Sons of Ishmael series. If you haven’t read their story, you can get it here for $1.99

Blessings

Unoma

 

 

 

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